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**sierra 1247**

Bullockist wrote:
Ashiraya wrote:
Guys, a hypothetical question. How do you know if a guy is interested in you?

I'd prefer not asking outright 'Are you interested in me?' as that could get really awkward really fast. But for some reason, in this entirely hypothetical situation, it's just something about the hypothetical guy that raises the suspicion.

Are there any secret signs I should look for?

All completely hypothetical of course.

I'd second the act like an idiot thing. If I'm strongly attracted to someone I get a severe attack of the stupids, it's a family trait ...Yay genes.

Gotta agree on this one, when I was with my last girlfriend I was always either acting like an idiot or messing up every other sentence. I still talk to her and get in with her but I still do the same things. So yes that is a major sign that he likes you

**Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl**

I had the strangest thing happen to me today. Not exactly directly related to dating, but still.
So, it was about 13:30, and I wanted an haircut, so I was going to check if the hairdresser to see if they were open. So, I am just walking when I hear some women saying something something about “pipe”, which in French can be either to refer to the smoking device, or as a slang for fellatio, and that ended by “honey”. I did not stop to check or anything, but I was a bit puzzled. The hairdresser was closed, so I come back and walk past those two women. They get up from where they were sitting, they ask me if I want “fellatio? love?”, and one of them even touch my belly. Seriously? I have already been accosted by prostitutes, but never in the middle of the day and aggressively like that. Well, I guess I can still count myself lucky, apparently women have to deal with worse groping more often, but still, that is pretty crazy!

**trexmeyer**

I've heard some absolute horror stories about harassment from the girl I'm currently "involved" with (nothing official, yet I'm taking this one slow and not escalating anything). I've been harassed a few times, but you have to be an exceptionally good looking guy (not saying I am that attractive) to be harassed half as much as a somewhat cute girl.

Men really piss me off some times.

**Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl**

trexmeyer wrote:
I've been harassed a few times

Do you mean, harassed by girls that were not quite obviously trying to sell their services?

**trexmeyer**

Exactly that. Usually older women.

**NuggzTheNinja**

Where did my post go?

I'm assuming somebody felt the white knight urge to suppress the amazingness of my tale, but I'd at least appreciate an explanation since my post didn't violate any of the forum rules.

**Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl**

Oh. The closest I got to that was some older women telling that she would date me if she was 20 years younger, but that now it would be statutory rape. Damn it, I am 27, even though it would not be a good idea, it cannot be statutory rape

. Yeah, I know, it was really not close

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NuggzTheNinja wrote:
Where did my post go?

No idea. Some of my post disappear from time to time too.

**chaos0xomega**

Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:
I had the strangest thing happen to me today. Not exactly directly related to dating, but still.
So, it was about 13:30, and I wanted an haircut, so I was going to check if the hairdresser to see if they were open. So, I am just walking when I hear some women saying something something about “pipe”, which in French can be either to refer to the smoking device, or as a slang for fellatio, and that ended by “honey”. I did not stop to check or anything, but I was a bit puzzled. The hairdresser was closed, so I come back and walk past those two women. They get up from where they were sitting, they ask me if I want “fellatio? love?”, and one of them even touch my belly. Seriously? I have already been accosted by prostitutes, but never in the middle of the day and aggressively like that. Well, I guess I can still count myself lucky, apparently women have to deal with worse groping more often, but still, that is pretty crazy!

Something tells me you are far more attractive than you give yourself credit for ;P

NuggzTheNinja wrote:
Where did my post go?

I'm assuming somebody felt the white knight urge to suppress the amazingness of my tale, but I'd at least appreciate an explanation since my post didn't violate any of the forum rules.

Yeah weird, I saw your post as well, even commented about how I thought you playing with fire and bound to have it explode in your face but I was still envious and wish gak like that could happen to me.

**Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl**

chaos0xomega wrote:
Something tells me you are far more attractive than you give yourself credit for ;P

Nah, they were prostitutes. I mentioned that to my father, he said the hairdresser had warned him about them

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I am not terribly ugly, but I am not handsome enough for girls to actually want to be with me. Or so it seems.

**Easy E**

daedalus wrote:
Easy E wrote:
According to this thread, a sign I guy is into you is when he acts like an idiot around you.

What's a "sign I guy"?

A typo. That's what it is.

**Albatross**

Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:
chaos0xomega wrote:
Something tells me you are far more attractive than you give yourself credit for ;P

Nah, they were prostitutes. I mentioned that to my father, he said the hairdresser had warned him about them .
I am not terribly ugly, but I am not handsome enough for girls to actually want to be with me. Or so it seems.

Trust me, it's your personality.

I know that sounds harsh, but I guarantee that it's true. Self-pity and self-doubt are not considered attractive personality traits, man. You gotta work on that stuff. Thoughts become things.

**hotsauceman1**

Agreed, doupt is good, but in doses.

**Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl**

Albatross wrote:
Trust me, it's your personality.

Not for those prostitutes

. I meant I am not good-looking enough for girl to chase me that way. But maybe indeed they were so aggressively pushing for it because I look so much better than their usual client

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**trexmeyer**

Sadly being good looking and confident doesn't exactly exempt you from being treated like dog crap. The only difference is you can get women to end up treating your poorly instead of just being ignored.

**NuggzTheNinja**

Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:
Albatross wrote:
Trust me, it's your personality.

Not for those prostitutes . I meant I am not good-looking enough for girl to chase me that way. But maybe indeed they were so aggressively pushing for it because I look so much better than their usual client .

Personality. I've seen some pretty cute girls with some fairly unattractive guys. And they aren't wealthy either...

**Bromsy**

NuggzTheNinja wrote:
Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:
Albatross wrote:
Trust me, it's your personality.

Not for those prostitutes . I meant I am not good-looking enough for girl to chase me that way. But maybe indeed they were so aggressively pushing for it because I look so much better than their usual client .

Personality. I've seen some pretty cute girls with some fairly unattractive guys. And they aren't wealthy either...

I have been that guy!

**hotsauceman1**

Its almost as if taking care of yourself, being a decent person and not thinking you are better than women is what people look for.
On my front.....nothing.

Im off to college in a week with a new car and will be on the prowl.

**Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl**

hotsauceman1 wrote:
Its almost as if taking care of yourself, being a decent person and not thinking you are better than women is what people look for.

Are you implying I am not being a decent person, or I think I am better than women, or that I do not take care of myself? Only the last one might have been close to reality

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**hotsauceman1**

Im not part of that conversation.
I am just making a statement of wh cute girls will go with "Unattractive" guys

**daedalus**

Easy E wrote:
daedalus wrote:
Easy E wrote:
According to this thread, a sign I guy is into you is when he acts like an idiot around you.

What's a "sign I guy"?

A typo. That's what it is.

Oh, contextually speaking, I didn't know if that was some obscure pickup artist slang you might have been using ironically or any myriad of other strange terms I just wasn't familiar with. In retrospect, "a sign a guy is" makes perfect sense.

**Albatross**

Bromsy wrote:
NuggzTheNinja wrote:
Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:
Albatross wrote:
Trust me, it's your personality.

Not for those prostitutes . I meant I am not good-looking enough for girl to chase me that way. But maybe indeed they were so aggressively pushing for it because I look so much better than their usual client .

Personality. I've seen some pretty cute girls with some fairly unattractive guys. And they aren't wealthy either...

I have been that guy!

I am currently that guy!

**OgreChubbs**

People worry to much about this stuff man, I never was alone when I didn't want to be and I have a drop dead gorgeous wife now. So people need to relax and late nature take it's course. Love always shows up eventually, so no worries there. Rushing things always makes failure.

Just go to where you like to go sit down and relax with in 10 minutes there will be a random girl talking to you asking you what your up to. With in 15 minutes she will be talking away about what ever you said and so on. Geeze go to walmart stand in-front of the games for a couple minutes and some girls will come and talk to you it gets annoying when your trying to buy a game and there's some random girl talking about it

And yet I can never find an employee to open the damn cabinet........

**Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl**

OgreChubbs wrote:
People worry to much about this stuff man, I never was alone when I didn't want to be and I have a drop dead gorgeous wife now. So people need to relax and late nature take it's course.

It is good for you it came easily to you. But that does not make it easy for everyone else.

OgreChubbs wrote:
Just go to where you like to go sit down and relax with in 10 minutes there will be a random girl talking to you asking you what your up to.

That is not what happens to me when I sit down and relax for 10 minutes.

**trexmeyer**

OgreChubbs wrote:
People worry to much about this stuff man, I never was alone when I didn't want to be and I have a drop dead gorgeous wife now. So people need to relax and late nature take it's course. Love always shows up eventually, so no worries there. Rushing things always makes failure.

Just go to where you like to go sit down and relax with in 10 minutes there will be a random girl talking to you asking you what your up to. With in 15 minutes she will be talking away about what ever you said and so on. Geeze go to walmart stand in-front of the games for a couple minutes and some girls will come and talk to you it gets annoying when your trying to buy a game and there's some random girl talking about it And yet I can never find an employee to open the damn cabinet........

Is this you?

**Avatar 720**

Step 1: Be attractive.
Step 2: Don't be unattractive.
Step 3: ???
Step 4: ~~Sex!~~ Profit!

**reds8n**

.. could always be worse .....

http://jezebel.com/worst-date-in-history-ends-in-sex-chest-tattoos-viole-1635463088

According to The News Tribune, 53-year-old Leon Shaw was on a date with an unidentified 47-year-old woman when things went terribly, terribly wrong. According to reports, the two had only known each other for mere hours and had had a good time drinking when they decided to visit the home of Shaw's friend, who just happened to be a tattoo artist.

At the artist's home, the unidentified woman asked for a chest tattoo (in the middle of the night) and the artist obliged. During the tattooing process, the woman and the tattoo artist (which sounds like the title of something I would have written in my creative writing class in 2004) began to grow intimate, making Shaw, who thought this was his date, angry. Not much is known about what happened next, but detectives say that Shaw grew angry, the woman punched him and he slapped her back. Then, she ran out of the house, stole Shaw's pickup truck while half-naked. When Shaw went outside to see what was going on, he was run over and his truck was crashed. By the time the police came, Shaw was dead and his date was in critical condition.

This is awful. The police haven't been able to interview the woman yet due to her injuries, but I am worried (as horrible as this date sounds) that someone might not be telling the truth. It's possible, of course, that everyone was just incredibly drunk and acted badly, but it's also possible that the woman was trying to escape because she was being attacked by Shaw and/or his friend. The detectives on the case are just as stumped.

"We still have some investigating to do," Ed Troyer, the sheriff's spokesperson told The News Tribune. The woman has not been charged with a crime.

**thenoobbomb**

Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:

OgreChubbs wrote:
Just go to where you like to go sit down and relax with in 10 minutes there will be a random girl talking to you asking you what your up to.

That is not what happens to me when I sit down and relax for 10 minutes.

Stahp!

**the shrouded lord**

agreed. when i go sit somewhere and relax for ten minutes police approach me and ask if I have been doing drugs.

**Nevelon**

the shrouded lord wrote:
agreed. when i go sit somewhere and relax for ten minutes police approach me and ask if I have been doing drugs.

You just need to start dating cops.

**gorgon**

Attractiveness definitely counts. But overall women aren't as hung up on pure attractiveness as men. So while the advice about working out, taking care of yourself, dressing well, etc. is all very good advice, you should also work on the personality you project.

Do you smile easily and enough? Is your body language open or closed? Is it relaxed or uptight? Can you start and hold a conversation? Do you pay attention and listen when she's talking? Can you show a sense of humor?

You can be decent-looking but struggle if you're that guy who stands around with his arms folded, never smiling, and only giving one-word answers when approached. Some men act that way thinking it makes them seem tough and manly...but in reality it makes them seem scary and unapproachable unless they're highly attractive. I hazard to guess that OgreChubbs projects a very friendly, happy, open personality and is easy to talk to.

Everyone likes to think that even if they aren't great-looking, they have a good personality. But it's not really true.

The good news is that you can work on it just like everything else. Make the effort to smile more. Read up on body language -- how to improve yours and read others. Work on your listening and conversation skills whenever you get the chance.