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2015/07/22 20:24:31
Subject: Online cheating site Ashley Madison Hacked
Two psychotherapists operating EastWind Health Associates in Halifax reported their clinical experience that chronic viewing of pornography by adult men can lead to emotional estrangement from their partners, even though the men may desire emotional intimacy.[16] Because of the increasing numbers of men presenting such problems, one therapist remarked “I think we’re at a tipping point with this phenomenon”.
2015/07/22 20:27:24
Subject: Online cheating site Ashley Madison Hacked
Polonius wrote: Hell, volunteer work with disabled puppies is harmful to a relationship if its chronic.
Yup Almost anything can be harmful when used in a chronic manner, like water.
There is evidence that pornography does have other benefits;
http://www.christopherjferguson.com/pornography.pdf "Victimization rates for rape in the United States demonstrate an inverse relationship between pornography consumption and rape rates. Data from other nations have suggested similar relationships. Although these data cannot be used to determine that pornography has a cathartic effect on rape behavior, combined with the weak evidence in support of negative causal hypotheses from the scientific literature, it is concluded that it is time to discard the hypothesis that pornography contributes to increased sexual assault behavior."
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2015/07/22 21:11:53
Subject: Online cheating site Ashley Madison Hacked
BobtheInquisitor wrote: How does it affect the relationship if the partners have a chronic pornographic habit of making amateur videos?
The study I linked to dealt with "chronic viewing of pornography by adult men ", not the making of it. When you say chronic habit is it affecting their relationship in other ways? Or is it affecting their interactions with others?
2015/07/22 21:17:06
Subject: Online cheating site Ashley Madison Hacked
I wonder if the prevalence and ease of access to porn is behind some of these...new attitudes, or at least a major contributing factor?
It is. Kinda. I don't have the chart at hand, but I read a study on it about 2 years ago. Porn videos watched and number of sexual partners had a significant correlation.
I remember 'video games' being on the rise as one of the reasons for divorce.
I wonder if the prevalence and ease of access to porn is behind some of these...new attitudes, or at least a major contributing factor?
It is. Kinda. I don't have the chart at hand, but I read a study on it about 2 years ago. Porn videos watched and number of sexual partners had a significant correlation.
I remember 'video games' being on the rise as one of the reasons for divorce.
Video games are as much of a reason of gang violence as porn is.
Or divorce for that matter.
Correlation doesn't really work as games haven't been linked to that. It is mostly societal. As crime in general has gone down considerably. We could say that people are playing more video games so violence has gone down because of it. Divorce has only become more and more common because of change of societal beliefs and people are not maturing as quickly as they used to.
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2015/07/22 22:41:20
Subject: Online cheating site Ashley Madison Hacked
I wonder if the prevalence and ease of access to porn is behind some of these...new attitudes, or at least a major contributing factor?
It is. Kinda. I don't have the chart at hand, but I read a study on it about 2 years ago. Porn videos watched and number of sexual partners had a significant correlation.
I remember 'video games' being on the rise as one of the reasons for divorce.
Video games are as much of a reason of gang violence as porn is.
Or divorce for that matter.
Correlation doesn't really work as games haven't been linked to that. It is mostly societal. As crime in general has gone down considerably. We could say that people are playing more video games so violence has gone down because of it. Divorce has only become more and more common because of change of societal beliefs and people are not maturing as quickly as they used to.
I wonder if the prevalence and ease of access to porn is behind some of these...new attitudes, or at least a major contributing factor?
It is. Kinda. I don't have the chart at hand, but I read a study on it about 2 years ago. Porn videos watched and number of sexual partners had a significant correlation.
I remember 'video games' being on the rise as one of the reasons for divorce.
Video games are as much of a reason of gang violence as porn is.
Or divorce for that matter.
Correlation doesn't really work as games haven't been linked to that. It is mostly societal. As crime in general has gone down considerably. We could say that people are playing more video games so violence has gone down because of it. Divorce has only become more and more common because of change of societal beliefs and people are not maturing as quickly as they used to.
I wonder if the prevalence and ease of access to porn is behind some of these...new attitudes, or at least a major contributing factor?
It is. Kinda. I don't have the chart at hand, but I read a study on it about 2 years ago. Porn videos watched and number of sexual partners had a significant correlation.
I remember 'video games' being on the rise as one of the reasons for divorce.
Video games are as much of a reason of gang violence as porn is.
Or divorce for that matter.
Correlation doesn't really work as games haven't been linked to that. It is mostly societal. As crime in general has gone down considerably. We could say that people are playing more video games so violence has gone down because of it. Divorce has only become more and more common because of change of societal beliefs and people are not maturing as quickly as they used to.
I wonder if the prevalence and ease of access to porn is behind some of these...new attitudes, or at least a major contributing factor?
Maybe, but at a guess I’d say no. I remember having a conversation like this a few times back in the late 90s, and there wasn’t a whole lot of internet around here back then. A couple of half remembered conversations are hardly a representative sample, though.
I’d guess that attitudes like the ones in this thread have been around as long as people have really wanted some sex, which is probably forever. As we’ve opened up conversation about relationships outside of traditional marriage people have felt more free to talk about them, but they’ve probably always been there.
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Sigvatr wrote: It is. Kinda. I don't have the chart at hand, but I read a study on it about 2 years ago. Porn videos watched and number of sexual partners had a significant correlation.
There’s a pretty obvious factor, libido, that can easily explain the correlation between the two.
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2015/07/23 01:17:44
Subject: Online cheating site Ashley Madison Hacked
BobtheInquisitor wrote: How does it affect the relationship if the partners have a chronic pornographic habit of making amateur videos?
The study I linked to dealt with "chronic viewing of pornography by adult men ", not the making of it. When you say chronic habit is it affecting their relationship in other ways? Or is it affecting their interactions with others?
I was attempting a joke. Mostly. Certainly by using the word chronic. Does Skype count as interacting with others?
Sigvatr wrote: Porn videos watched and number of sexual partners had a significant correlation.
In which way? I would expect that people with no sexual partner would be those watching the most porn .
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2015/07/23 11:49:54
Subject: Re:Online cheating site Ashley Madison Hacked
Heart 73(?) info was release
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2015/07/23 13:12:35
Subject: Online cheating site Ashley Madison Hacked
Canada's prim capital is suddenly focused more on the state of people's affairs than the affairs of the state.
One in five Ottawa residents allegedly subscribed to adulterers' website Ashley Madison, making one of the world's coldest capitals among the hottest for extra-marital hookups - and the most vulnerable to a breach of privacy after hackers targeted the site.
Hackers threatened to leak details including the credit card information, nude photos, sexual fantasies and real names of as many as 37 million customers worldwide of Ashley Madison, which uses the slogan: "Life is short. Have an affair."
The website's Canadian parent, Avid Life Media, said it had since secured the site and was working with law enforcement agencies to trace those behind the attack.
"Everybody says Ottawa is a sleepy town and here we are with 200,000 people running around on each other," said municipal employee Jon Weaks, 27, as he took a break at an outdoor cafe near the nation's Parliament.
"I think a lot of people will be questioned tonight at dinner," added colleague Ali Cross, 28.
Some 189,810 Ashley Madison users were registered in Ottawa, a city with a population of about 883,000, making the capital No. 1 for philanderers in Canada and potentially the highest globally per capita, according to previously published figures from the Toronto-based company.
The one bright spot for millions of Ashley Madison's nervous clients is that the hack appears to be an inside job, according to police and intelligence sources. Avid Life has also said it is convinced the hackers were formerly connected to the company.
That means, for now at least, the perpetrators are driven by ideological and not commercial motives.
The hackers, who referred to customers as "cheating dirtbags who deserve no discretion," appear uninterested in blackmailing individual clients, unlike an organized crime outfit.
"If it had been organized, they wouldn't have advertised it," said a law enforcement source who spoke on condition of anonymity. "But there's going to be a lot of people with lots of explaining to do."
The hotbed of infidelity was also the seat of power: The top postal code for new members matched that of Parliament Hill, according to Avid Live chief executive Noel Biderman in a newspaper report published earlier this year.
Biderman said capital cities around the world typically top subscription rates, a phenomenon he chalks up to "power, fame and opportunity," along with the risk-taking personalities that find themselves in political cities.
The Ottawa mayor's office and city council either declined to comment or did not return emails.
The hackers want Avid Life to shut down the website, as well as a second one it runs, EstablishedMen.com which is widely described as a "sugar daddy site," but has no issues with CougarLife.com, a site for older women looking for hookups.
"In our buttoned-down city, it may not be acceptable to openly explore outside of a committed relationship," said Ottawa marriage counselor Nataxja Cini.
In a city full of professionals with demanding careers, many in government, Cini said marriage may come under more strain than usual. But with a stable family life still a badge of success, an Ashley Madison subscription may be preferable to divorce, she said.
To be sure, the subscription data may not be that reliable.
A former employee sued Avid Life, saying she had developed debilitating wrist pain, insomnia and anxiety while writing 1,000 fake profiles for a Brazilian version of Ashley Madison, according to court records. The case was dismissed earlier this year.
Still, one Ottawa resident, who declined to give her last name, said it is unsurprising the small government town is home to so many Ashley Madison clients.
"In a blue collar city, they're not going to use a website, they're going to do it at a bar," said Kary, 38. In Ottawa "you can't run the risk of someone seeing you at a bar doing that."
The town is also not famed for its rollicking social scene.
"Why do you think everyone goes to Montreal to have a good time?" she added. "Ottawa is the city fun forgot."
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2015/07/23 15:18:14
Subject: Online cheating site Ashley Madison Hacked
If you're in a completely stable, loving relationship with your partner, and they don't know that you're banging your secretary on the weekends, there are circumstances where that may be preferable to filing for a divorce.
[...]That doesn't hurt them. ( - cheating behind their back )
This kind of reasoning in people is exactly the reason why I have trust and commitment issues as well as part of the reason why I have to go to a therapist once a week.
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2015/07/23 15:22:48
Subject: Online cheating site Ashley Madison Hacked
If you're in a completely stable, loving relationship with your partner, and they don't know that you're banging your secretary on the weekends, there are circumstances where that may be preferable to filing for a divorce.
[...]That doesn't hurt them. ( - cheating behind their back )
This kind of reasoning in people is exactly the reason why I have trust and commitment issues as well as part of the reason why I have to go to a therapist once a week.
I'm sure there's more to that story.
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2015/07/23 15:26:02
Subject: Online cheating site Ashley Madison Hacked
Crablezworth wrote: People in my fair city are either terrible humans or terribly human.
Thriving sex culture.
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2015/07/25 11:36:58
Subject: Online cheating site Ashley Madison Hacked
Dreadclaw69 wrote: They also released a list of sexual fantasies posted to the site. For obvious reasons I won't link to them
That's the bit I'm not happy with. Revealing who's cheating on their partner, you can make a moral argument for that, but what's the point of this? Having a sanctimonious, shaming laugh at someone who likes 'weird' stuff?
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