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So yeah, that is kind of funny, hilarious, I am going to see how many divorces are going to happen because of this.

 Asherian Command wrote:
So yeah, that is kind of funny, hilarious, I am going to see how many divorces are going to happen because of this.

Or suicides, or murder, or murder suicides. Because, you know, I'm sure out of 37 million people there won't be any crimes of passion.

 Crablezworth wrote:

 Asherian Command wrote:
So yeah, that is kind of funny, hilarious, I am going to see how many divorces are going to happen because of this.

Or suicides, or murder, or murder suicides. Because, you know, I'm sure out of 37 million people there won't be any crimes of passion.

Now you just went morbid. I feel like I should add that to my cards against humanity deck "Crime of Passion" or "Ashley Madison Murder"

 Dreadclaw69 wrote:

 Frazzled wrote:

 Dreadclaw69 wrote:
Does this mean you'll start to practice more divorce law Frazz?

Did I mention the "He Needed Killing Your Honor" self defense clause for Texas women applies to divorces as well? We call it the "quickie divorce" also known as the "roadkill mediation settlement" wait....

So shotgun weddings and divorces

 BlaxicanX wrote:
If they don't know, how is it hurting them?

Are you seriously asking how cheating on your partner behind their backs could hurt them? Well, lets start with a complete breakdown of trust.

If you want an open relationship fine. Just make sure your partner is cool with it

The breakdown of trust is just the starting point. People have picked up any kind of STD you'd care to name from a cheating spouse and more than a few have contracted AIDs.
Then get into the fact there are those emotionally unstable types that might try killing the cheater's spouse. Long Island Lolita, anyone?
How about the emotional toll on the cheater's spouse, where suicide is the end result?
It really doesn't take a lot in the way of brains to see all of the negatives involved with cheating, even if those involved are trying to keep it a secret.

 BlaxicanX wrote:

 Disciple of Fate wrote:

 BlaxicanX wrote:

 Disciple of Fate wrote:
If you love them enough then why not tell them? If they love you they wont leave you right? Guess these people dont have that much confidence in their own 'love' life.

I'm not sure if you're trying to talk to me, or at me.

Just wondering about your answers. Would you stay with a person that cheats on you?

I don't know, but I wouldn't look down on anyone who wanted to end the relationship upon finding out that they've been cheated on. Anyone who feels an emotional disconnect from their partner has the right to move on.

But that's not what we're talking about. My assertion is that A) Cheating on your partner doesn't explicitly mean that you don't love them (as studies show), and B) If you're in a completely stable, loving relationship with your partner, and they don't know that you're banging your secretary on the weekends, there are circumstances where that may be preferable to filing for a divorce.

You realize the link you posted had nothing to do with love. It said that most people who had cheated were not near the end of the relationship.

It is morbid, but humans don't do well with betrayal. I'd love to think 37 million humans will do the right thing and not physically harm themselves or others in the wake of this but that's wishful thinking. I wonder if cheating is a large factor in most domestic violence... oh wait.

 Dreadclaw69 wrote:


If you want an open relationship fine. Just make sure your partner is cool with it

Exactly how I feel about it. I am all for allowing people who want them to have open relationships but I have no desire to be a part of one.

 Dreadclaw69 wrote:
It is a logical statement that betraying your partner will directly lead to a breakdown in trust when they find out.

While what you've said is true, BlaxicanX was arguing from the standpoint the spouse hadn't found out yet. How can there be a breakdown of trust if the partner hasn't found out?

Unless the partner is a fortune teller, in which case they really should have seen it coming

I have a friend getting married soon, he cheated on his fiance once, prior to the engagement. I plan on saying nothing, why? Because clearly he decided to continue the relationship, even move on to big steps like marriage. I'm not sure where I would go about finding the righteous indignation and puritan rage necessary to get on a soap box and ruin a $20,000 wedding. If I did, I certainly would struggle to think it was the moral thing to do.

That's a totally different ball of wax there. People who are in legit open relationships have a) phenomenal communication skills, b) time-management skills out the wazoo, and c) sexual endurance to make porn stars blush.

Props to those who can have and maintain such relationships...

... but that isn't what this site was about.

I don't give a feth for the people (single or otherwise) who were using it for a spank-bank. That's... whatever. You're not actually cheating in that situation, I don't care.

Those actually going out, spending money, and cheating on their spouse/SO? Yeah... just... end your first relationship first, then go out and play the field.

 Psienesis wrote:
That's a totally different ball of wax there. People who are in legit open relationships have a) phenomenal communication skills, b) time-management skills out the wazoo, and c) sexual endurance to make porn stars blush.

Props to those who can have and maintain such relationships...

... but that isn't what this site was about.

I don't give a feth for the people (single or otherwise) who were using it for a spank-bank. That's... whatever. You're not actually cheating in that situation, I don't care.

Those actually going out, spending money, and cheating on their spouse/SO? Yeah... just... end your first relationship first, then go out and play the field.

Never understood that from certain people. I mean your either in a committed relationship or your not. (or an open or complicated, etc etc.)

I think it is between the two partners what they are doing, if it is a marriage and they have both vowed to take no one else. You can't unless you divorce them.


Shesh I feel like that is not so hard to deal with.

I think now would be a great time to invest in popcorn futures.

Relapse wrote:
I think now would be a great time to invest in popcorn futures.

Or in the gun market. Bound to make a killing there.

*badum tish*

I'll see myself out.

" So as much as I abhor dishonesty and infidelity, I hate invasions of privacy more."

Well said lady, well said.

http://www.rawstory.com/2015/07/ashleymadisonhacked/

 Crablezworth wrote:
" So as much as I abhor dishonesty and infidelity, I hate invasions of privacy more."

Well said lady, well said.

http://www.rawstory.com/2015/07/ashleymadisonhacked/

Well one is a illegal the other one is just frowned upon.*

I can see that argument . But the other one is a social issue that sometimes for some people takes precedence over physical and mental well being. I do agree we are sorta blaming the victims, but the victims are akin to someone who steals, cheats, and lies. And pays for it.

Hell you could consider it prostitution if you really want to get technical.

 easysauce wrote:
that being said, cheaters are lame, why the hell are you in a relationship if you dont like the sex?

Tons of reasons, many of which revolve around financial security or access to your own kids.

Fun Fact: Men that are financially dependent on their partner are more likely to cheat than any other men, aside from the very wealthy.

Then maybe they need to "man up" and get a g-d job.

A god job?

 Asherian Command wrote:

Relapse wrote:
I think now would be a great time to invest in popcorn futures.

Or in the gun market. Bound to make a killing there.

*badum tish*

I'll see myself out.

It'll be a show, alright. I wonder how many people are trying to figure out how to tell their spouse about the "mistake" they made and how many are gonna roll the dice and hope they don't get outed.

Let's just say that Firefly replaced that word with "gorram".

 Crablezworth wrote:
A god job?

Good Job.

Anyone that doesn't work even if they don't have to. Should, be apart of the community and do things for the sake of it. Don't be a lazy roundabout that cheats on your wife because you know you were bored.

 Psienesis wrote:
Let's just say that Firefly replaced that word with "gorram".

Ah, that makes more sense


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 Asherian Command wrote:

 Crablezworth wrote:
A god job?

Good Job.

Anyone that doesn't work even if they don't have to. Should, be apart of the community and do things for the sake of it. Don't be a lazy roundabout that cheats on your wife because you know you were bored.

Being in a relationship in which your significant other brings home all the money does sound like a lot of work IMO, especially if there's kids.

 Crablezworth wrote:

 Psienesis wrote:
Let's just say that Firefly replaced that word with "gorram".

Ah, that makes more sense


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 Asherian Command wrote:

 Crablezworth wrote:
A god job?

Good Job.

Anyone that doesn't work even if they don't have to. Should, be apart of the community and do things for the sake of it. Don't be a lazy roundabout that cheats on your wife because you know you were bored.

Being in a relationship in which your significant other brings home all the money does sound like a lot of work IMO, especially if there's kids.

What? I am pretty sure that compared to a full time job person, their free time is pretty fething high.

 Asherian Command wrote:

 Crablezworth wrote:

 Psienesis wrote:
Let's just say that Firefly replaced that word with "gorram".

Ah, that makes more sense


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 Asherian Command wrote:

 Crablezworth wrote:
A god job?

Good Job.

Anyone that doesn't work even if they don't have to. Should, be apart of the community and do things for the sake of it. Don't be a lazy roundabout that cheats on your wife because you know you were bored.

Being in a relationship in which your significant other brings home all the money does sound like a lot of work IMO, especially if there's kids.

What? I am pretty sure that compared to a full time job person, their free time is pretty fething high.

Taking care of kids is a full time job.

 Polonius wrote:

 Psienesis wrote:
I have no pity, none, for those getting their data released as part of this hack. Zero. They are pieces of gak. Full stop. I don't care if one of them was curing effing cancer.

That's a genuinely interesting moral view, in that you view people that sign up to have an affair, but may not have done yet, are morally bankrupt regardless of any other factors.

Im also curious because it also says that those that do something not illegal, but morally wrong for others, is subject to illegal things and basic rights getting taken from them

After all this talk about the ethics of cheating, it made me wonder how many people in marriages used this as a way to swing or "hotwifing". You know, technically cheating things but where the other spouse is perfectly fine with it or in a lot of the situations, encourages it.

I feel like those would be the innocent people harmed with their information being made public.

Cheating can cause harm in lots of ways. For example, many couples who are together long term do not use condoms, perhaps using a different source of contraception. They do this because they can trust that they will not catch anything off their partner. If one partner cheats and catches something, they will likely pass it on to the other. I've actually had this happen to a friend of mine, awful situation.

There may be some situations where cheating does not cause any direct harm (the cheating happens, is never found out, and the awful case I pointed out above doesn't happen). But there are many more cases where cheating causes emotional distress, financial harm, and eventually destroys relationships.

I don't see a lot of homocides happening
I see a lot of material gain on one spouse and the other spou...............
SHE GETS HALF OF EVERYTHING!!!!!! BANANA!!!

Still though that would be one huge database to put 37 million names out in the public domain
How many you wonder have already reported known and unknown credit cards being reported stolen

I am curious to see how many of them are the "family values" type of politicians, civic leaders, etc. I mean, I can just see Larry Flynt smiling gleefully over this list looking for the hypocrites.

 kronk wrote:
The narrative of the hack is not "cheating is wrong, and you should all be ashamed!"

It's "AM isn't protecting your privacy, so we are sharing it with the world!"

LOL!

I thought it was about ethics in video game journalism.