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Amphsix wrote:

Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:

Amphsix wrote:
That's what you find -most- attractive. I bet you would like other women too, if it really came down to things like "personality first"

I heard someone say "I can't have sex with your personality" at some point and I believe it. I will say that there are probably many people he'd click with who don't fit those standards, but it's not all personality at work there either.

Of course it's not all personality. But you wouldn't fall in love with someone who fits the bill perfectly when it comes to looks, but is a total bitch.
I also think that if you fall in love with someone through having a strong basis of friendship first, you're more openminded to what kind of people you can like. For example, all my life I've felt most attracted to tanned men with dark, short hair and medium posture and lenght. But my current boyfriend is a fair skinned redhead who is also rather tall.

So what I mean to say is... you never know exactely what you like. The chances you'll find someone who fits perfeclty both phisically and mentally are -very- slim indeed.
Relationships are still based on personality first and foremost, the stronger you fit together mentally, the longer a relationship will last. That looks play a secondary but also important role is undenyable.. but someone's "taste" is usually a bit stretchy.

You see, our disconnect is that you were talking about relationships. I never assume that's what anyone means

Melissia wrote:I'm sure.

But I can't even stand beer, even the supposedly "good" beers that people on this forum recommend are just nasty pisswater. Or wine for that matter, which is slightly better tahn beer but I still can't stand its taste much.

As well as that... I'm a nerd. A total nerd, probably nerdier than hafl the people on this forum and that's saying something given that this is a wargaming forum.

Party girl just isn't me.

Let's hang out.

Straight male here.

A minor observation: I've worked with/for a fair number of L-G-B people. I have noticed that people of alternate sexualities tend to have much more stable relationships then straight people. The 'married' couples have all been together for decades, where many straight couples I have met have since divorced.

Although I'll grant you that a) I don't have any real L-G-B friends, probably because I've never met one who was also a gamer, and b) the half-dozen or so I've worked with hardly represents a statistically significant sampling of the overall community.

As far as 'is it acceptable' goes, I've always thought 'it's none of my business what happens between two consenting adults' is the most applicable way to handle it. As far as my own sexuality goes, well, I'm just not attracted to guys, and am VERY attracted to women, so my decision was pretty easy to make.

On the subject of 'types' and physical attraction: if I were to describe my type in terms of physical attaction, it would come nowhere near the description of my wife of 15 years who I would die for if need be*. The physical is not the whole of the relationship - although if there is no physical attraction, there can be no physical relationship, can there?


*Although I have to admit I initially was (and still am) quite attracted to her huge... tracts of land.

Cheesecat wrote:I think people's preferred gender is biologically determined

To me, this is as silly as saying that person's preferred color is biologically determined.


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FITZZ wrote: I've always found the term " perv" somewhat amusing , as with the exception of being a pedo, groping some animal or diving out of the bushes and forcing yourself on someone ( which has nothing to do with sex anyway)...I don't see very much as being " perverted"....just simple choices as to what does and doesn't " turn you on".

And in those case, "criminal" is a better term than "pervert." (At least when you actually do those things.)


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Melissia wrote:For the most part, sexuality is an unimportant factoid to my life right now, as I am focused on education and finding a job first.

To me that is strange. It's like saying, "I'll worry about listening to music or what foods I like or what I think about the world after I have a degree and a job." Of course, I can't understand how one's sexuality could be described as a "factoid," either.

I have no issues with homosexuals, heterosexuals, transgender, or transexual, but bisexuals, as we all know, are just terrible, awful people. Unless it is a chick than it is ok. Pretty sure that is the law.

Manchu wrote:To me that is strange. It's like saying, "I'll worry about listening to music or what foods I like or what I think about the world after I have a degree and a job." Of course, I can't understand how one's sexuality could be described as a "factoid," either.

1: That's a rather jaded way to look at sex. Is it just me that associates sex and romance? Putting off sex/relationships/romance until I believe I'm able to have a happy life not harmed by financial problems is hardly unheard of.

2: This objection makes little sense, either.

If sex isn't all that important to me at the moment, why would I be so totally defined by it? I guess you could say I'm defined by caring about more important things?

Meh, sex can be romantic but by the same token sharing a meal can also be romantic.

Hell just about any mutually enjoyable activity can be romantic.

As for things not being important, what about gaming? you define yourself as a geek yet geeky activities are just as important as sex in the grand scheme of things.

Melissia wrote:

Manchu wrote:To me that is strange. It's like saying, "I'll worry about listening to music or what foods I like or what I think about the world after I have a degree and a job." Of course, I can't understand how one's sexuality could be described as a "factoid," either.

1: That's a rather jaded way to look at sex. Is it just me that associates sex and romance? Putting off sex/relationships/romance until I believe I'm able to have a happy life not harmed by financial problems is hardly unheard of.

2: This objection makes little sense, either.

If sex isn't all that important to me at the moment, why would I be so totally defined by it? I guess you could say I'm defined by caring about more important things?

Love sometimes just overcomes you. Even if you don't focus on it on this point in your life, you can't "switch off" your sexuality/attraction

If that happens I'll deal with ti when it comes. Not exactly ROKKIT SYENZ here... lol...

It is fair enough to be honest, some people aren't that into sex just like some people aren't really into food.

I make a LOT of comparisons between sex and eating, is that bad?

I'm in the same group as Melissa right now. Don't really care right now.

I'm content being in a dimly lit room, cursing like a sailor because I just superglued my hand to my xbox controller.... again.

Will this change one day? Prolly. Am I in a hurry to find the person for me? Nope. Am I googling how to remove superglue (again)? Yes. Did I just glue my wrist to my Laptop? Yes

Manchu wrote:That's a rather jaded way to look at sex.

The discussion is about sexuality, not sex. Talking about sexuality as something that can be prioritized along with your job and degree seems.jaded ... Or really just nonsensical.

If sex isn't all that important to me at the moment, why would I be so totally defined by it? I guess you could say I'm defined by caring about more important things?

You must be arguing with yourself because nothing I have posted could reasonably be responded to this way.

I'm loving than cannerus slipped his name into the title, like the whole thread is a book of some kind

to me it is all good. My brother was once my sister, and has always liked girls. I grew up with it so I guess that helped my attitude.

corpsesarefun wrote:I'm loving than cannerus slipped his name into the title, like the whole thread is a book of some kind

Or a perfume/cologne.

Manchu wrote:You must be arguing with yourself

No, I'm arguing with you.

Manchu wrote:Of course, I can't understand how one's sexuality could be described as a "factoid," either.

Factoid: "A brief or trivial item of news or information."

As in, unimportant right now.

corpsesarefun wrote:It is fair enough to be honest, some people aren't that into sex just like some people aren't really into food.

I make a LOT of comparisons between sex and eating, is that bad?

Not really, both are pretty much the most pleasurable things ever (well, I certainly know food is ).

Also, looking this up enlightened me to

"Bikini bottom made out of edible candy beads"

Oh my god that is fantastic I can imagine that advert far too well.

"Sexuality, the fragrance for she who thirsts, only by cannerus"

Melissia wrote:Factoid: "A brief or trivial item of news or information."

Sexuality is not a brief item of information.

Manchu wrote:

Melissia wrote:Factoid: "A brief or trivial item of news or information."

Sexuality is not a brief item of information.

But right now, it is trivial to my life.

Melissia wrote:But right now, it is trivial to my life.

What I mean is that it is not the sort of thing that can be called trivial. Just because something is not trivial doesn't make it the center of your identity. It's like saying "my personality is trivial to who I am." It just doesn't make sense. You can say, however, "sex is trivial to me" and that makes sense.

Melissia wrote:

Manchu wrote:

Melissia wrote:Factoid: "A brief or trivial item of news or information."

Sexuality is not a brief item of information.

But right now, it is trivial to my life.

But...even if you choose to not have a "partner" or be " in a relationship"...I would think it nigh impossiable to just switch ones sexuality " off".

But it would be so incredibly convenient.

MrDwhitey wrote:But it would be so incredibly convenient.

Perhaps..but I'd personally find it pretty dull as well.

FITZZ wrote:

MrDwhitey wrote:But it would be so incredibly convenient.

Perhaps..but I'd personally find it pretty dull as well.

Yes, FITZZ would miss his fresh baked cookies and lemonade stands outside the church.

Chowderhead wrote:

FITZZ wrote:

MrDwhitey wrote:But it would be so incredibly convenient.

Perhaps..but I'd personally find it pretty dull as well.

Yes, FITZZ would miss his fresh baked cookies and lemonade stands outside the church.

... Indeed I would...particularly the fresh baked cookies.

FITZZ wrote:

Melissia wrote:

Manchu wrote:

Melissia wrote:Factoid: "A brief or trivial item of news or information."

Sexuality is not a brief item of information.

But right now, it is trivial to my life.

But...even if you choose to not have a "partner" or be " in a relationship"...I would think it nigh impossiable to just switch ones sexuality " off".

Sure ,but you can always ignore it.

Hell my urge to strangle people is far stronger (and comes up more often, along with shin-kicking and face-punching) and I ignore that.

Melissia wrote:

FITZZ wrote:

Melissia wrote:

Manchu wrote:

Melissia wrote:Factoid: "A brief or trivial item of news or information."

Sexuality is not a brief item of information.

But right now, it is trivial to my life.

But...even if you choose to not have a "partner" or be " in a relationship"...I would think it nigh impossiable to just switch ones sexuality " off".

Sure ,but you can always ignore it.

Hell my urge to strangle people is far stronger (and comes up more often, along with shin-kicking and face-punching) and I ignore that.

That actually makes sense, however where satisfying the desire to strangle some jackass would most likely lead to incarceration ..and thus " should" be surpressed ( however difficult it may be), the satisfaction of carnal needs is by and large " legal"...so, and here I simply speak for myself, I see no need to suppress them.

I am straight

People know it. Because I stare at a girls arse for half a period. sigh

But yes. I am straight as you can get. Me F/F is fine.

F/M/Me No.
My women!

thats just how i see things. If I (ever) have a girlfriend I will keep her to myself >.< My sound selfish but I don't want someone's donky in my woman.

Of course in my case I would be her boy in that I would follow her word exactly.

Damn I forgot how much the opposite sex uses me like a puppy dog.

FITZZ wrote:That actually makes sense, however where satisfying the desire to strangle some jackass would most likely lead to incarceration ..and thus " should" be surpressed ( however difficult it may be), the satisfaction of carnal needs is by and large " legal"...so, and here I simply speak for myself, I see no need to suppress them.

Possibly because at the time they may seem a distraction that you know you don't really have the time to indulge in? Then again, I wonder how much work one must have to do to well.. not.

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MrDwhitey wrote:

FITZZ wrote:That actually makes sense, however where satisfying the desire to strangle some jackass would most likely lead to incarceration ..and thus " should" be surpressed ( however difficult it may be), the satisfaction of carnal needs is by and large " legal"...so, and here I simply speak for myself, I see no need to suppress them.

Possibly because at the time they may seem a distraction that you know you don't really have the time to indulge in? Then again, I wonder how much work one must have to do to well.. not.

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Well again, I'm not so much discussing " relationships and romance" which would of course require a great deal of time and attention..