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 Kali wrote:

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Move to Thailand.

I hate to be "that guy", but this post really isn't helpful or supportive.

I think Kali that your joke of a serious issue not only suggests a small measure of ignorance of how bad Transgender people suffer from violence but also makes light of the serious issue of body dysphoria (is that the right term?) but implies its not a serious issue, which isnt that harmful until such a mindset spreads, which is why in places like certain parts of america its almost impossible for transgenders to live peacefully and safely as no one thinks what they go through is worth any mention or of any importance.

Basically I get what you meant, it was a joke and all but was a little tasteless for a joke. If you disagree well good for you.

I swear this is only made worse by the fact people have to proclaim it constantly.

 trexmeyer wrote:
I swear this is only made worse by the fact people have to proclaim it constantly.

Not sure who that's directed at, but does not help to contribute

I guess a thread as nice as this one was couldn't stay that way forever. Someone always has to come in and be clueless at people.

 jreilly89 wrote:

 trexmeyer wrote:
I swear this is only made worse by the fact people have to proclaim it constantly.

Not sure who that's directed at, but does not help to contribute

Anyone that cares about someone else's sexual orientation is being insensitive, but that doesn't mean anyone wants to hear about it.

 trexmeyer wrote:

 jreilly89 wrote:

 trexmeyer wrote:
I swear this is only made worse by the fact people have to proclaim it constantly.

Not sure who that's directed at, but does not help to contribute

Anyone that cares about someone else's sexual orientation is being insensitive, but that doesn't mean anyone wants to hear about it.

If you don't want to hear about it, don't open/post in threads on the topic. It's the simplest way to do it, and the way that will leave everyone happiest.

It's in the thread title mate

I wish you the best of luck, m'lady.

 trexmeyer wrote:
It's in the thread title mate

I think that was his point.

The Wee jest wasn't bad, a wee bit dry for a joke, but it was all in good form. Many transgender people are ridiculed for being themselves and that's something that just happens. People we cruel, get over it. As for everyone saying move to Thailand and that, that country is actually not known for great treatment for gender dysphoria. In terms of being identified as transgender, I'd rather just be called a woman and that's the end if it.

 Dark apostle Bryan wrote:
The Wee jest wasn't bad, a wee bit dry for a joke, but it was all in good form. Many transgender people are ridiculed for being themselves and that's something that just happens. People we cruel, get over it. As for everyone saying move to Thailand and that, that country is actually not known for great treatment for gender dysphoria. In terms of being identified as transgender, I'd rather just be called a woman and that's the end if it.

I'd maybe look at changing the thread title, in that case.

Just made it that for the specifics


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Would be weird to just say I'm a girl without giving any detail. I was more meaning in day to day life that I don't want to be called transgender for the rest of my life .

You say that now, but you may change your mind part way down the road. Never rule out the mights as a might might change the path
Also if you would like a site that can be very suportive than PM me and I'll give you the address, there are no chasers, and its for folk that transistion or are on the path to it, its also a uk based page.

 Dark apostle Bryan wrote:
Just made it that for the specifics


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Would be weird to just say I'm a girl without giving any detail.

Not really, that's what most girls on here do...

I suppose if I have any advice, it would be that, if you wish to live as a woman, live as a woman. Don't live as a transgender person. Don't force people to accept you, just be, and take the rough with the smooth. You don't really need to come out to anyone other people who already knew you as male. Seeking validation from strangers is not something I would recommend, particularly on the internet; it forces people to take a position on the matter, which might be unpleasant for you, as we've already seen. People who are pretty much neutral on the issue, such as myself, might be inclined to think that you are engaging attention-seeking behaviour. People who are hostile towards transgender people, will act, well, hostile. Perhaps more so. People who take a favourable position will go all 'white knight' and start attacking the other two groups. I'm not seeing much of an upside, aside from neutrals going 'oh, well done, good for you etc.'...

And really, what's that worth? Just do you.

I was more meaning in day to day life that I don't want to be called transgender for the rest of my life .

Cool, fair enough. Just don't come out to every single person you meet and you should be fine. British people are a whole hell of a lot more tolerant on a personal level than we're given credit for, I feel. It's that whole 'fair play' thing; you're not hurting anyone, you should be free to live your life the way you choose.

Don't worry I'm not coming out to everyone. Only reason I did it on dakka so people I interact with know.


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Didn't see the bit at the bottom sorry. It's worth a whole lot more
Than you believe. Just been accepted by people I interact with day to day makes me feel better about life in general. Might seem like a really stupid reason but it's true

Game on, Bryan! Hopefully society is changing fast enough for it to not be much of a problem for you.

Seeing as how this is a wargaming forum, do you see this change affecting which army you play?

As for the army change....HELL NO!!! Chaos all the way

You'll just play slaneesh.

(Bad joke, I know)

In all seriously seriousness...good on ya. Hope that you find more joy in your life.

 Co'tor Shas wrote:
You'll just play slaneesh.

(Bad joke, I know)

Tzeentch, surely?



Too soon? Heh.


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 Dark apostle Bryan wrote:
Don't worry I'm not coming out to everyone. Only reason I did it on dakka so people I interact with know.


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Didn't see the bit at the bottom sorry. It's worth a whole lot more
Than you believe. Just been accepted by people I interact with day to day makes me feel better about life in general. Might seem like a really stupid reason but it's true

It's not stupid at all, it's understandable. I can be a bit of sharer too. I enjoy that feedback from the world. Makes life interesting. However, taking that into consideration, it does appear that you are seeking validation from others in an attempt to get them to approve your choice, as opposed to them accepting your identity as a woman. There's a flipside to that coin, that's all I'm saying.

Take this discussion for example. If you come out to people, you will expose yourself to their opinions, for better or worse. Be ready for that.

I've hadsome bad feedback from friends and such. But that's life and I can deal with a few people who dislike it.

Hey, the thread got nice again! Awesome. I'm impressed. +1 for the Dakka community.

PS: Still supportin' Bryan. Live long and prosper as whatever you need to be.

PPS: One of my favorite webcomics has gently introduced a transgender character and is now exploring the heterosexual male protagonist feeling attracted to her (her = now; was born male). I'm curious if you think the artist/writer is doing a good job.

 trexmeyer wrote:
I swear this is only made worse by the fact people have to proclaim it constantly.

good luck to you

Congratulations, but quick question: will you be changing your profile pic from Theodore Roosevelt?

(maybe to Edith Roosevelt?)

To OP,

If you are happier now as a woman, I am happy for you. Life is too short for someone to live a life that isn't true to themselves. Ignore the haters and know that there are people out there who respect those who are courageous enough to be themselves.

Today I had a coffee and a scone for breakfast.

 cincydooley wrote:
Today I had a coffee and a scone for breakfast.

That's nice...
I'll be sure to look you up on Twitter.