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2011/01/07 18:54:00
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
TBF Mel, these probably aren't the most social breed of males around these parts. And one reason for the latter part of your post is that nerd girls are typically shy and reserved, much like nerd guys. They don't get noticed because they don't try to be.
General note: While I'm all for people being comfortable with themselves, it can't hurt to spend and extra 15 minutes getting ready and at least being aware of what you look like. There are lots of minor superficial changes people I see in game stores could make and increase their appeal significantly.
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2011/01/07 19:13:59
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:There are lots of minor superficial changes people I see in game stores could make and increase their appeal significantly.
Typically, when I'm in the game store, I'm hung over (maybe still drunk), unshaven, and probably one of those guys you're referring to. When I'm out at a bar/club/date/social outing, I'm usually clean shaven, or at least not looking like Grizzly Adams, in a nice shirt, and not looking like I'm ready to fall asleep. If there was ever a woman in the FLGS, I'd consider keeping up the appearance, but it is the biggest sausage fest short of a Jimmy Dean convention. You're thinking about responding to that with "well, maybe if you all weren't stinky bastards, there WOULD be." I don't disagree, but I can't change the world, let alone the other nerds.
BTW, the last girl I went on a date with described herself as a nerd. She said she was a nerd and said she was into video games. I found out this means that she played Plants vs. Zombies all the time.
Melissia wrote:
Something I don't understand is why men seem to think that women can't also be nerds.
Because its so rare that many of us think its a myth.
I don't necessarily think that's true. But it's not like social shut-ins (IE, nerds) have a good chance to meet eachother much
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2011/01/07 23:02:01
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
Monster Rain wrote:I thought it was because there's nothing nerdy about doing laundry and baking pies.
Are you trying to say that I'm a woman? I'll have you know that baking and laundry are very manly activities. At least when I'm doing them. When my wife is doing them they're more feminine.
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Melissia wrote: Something I don't understand is why men seem to think that women can't also be nerds.
Because Girls who are Nerds are like Unicorns: Rare, pretty, intelligent, and still girls. Still hard to figure out, still mysterious, still dangerous. Oh, and get too close, and they gore you to death, too.
Personally, I've known four nerdy girls, all of them being friends of my first Ex Girlfriend. They were all pretty cool, and I am just glad that me and that particular Ex didn't break up on terrible terms
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2011/01/07 23:28:34
Subject: Re:Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
Also, has anyone ever had a girl set up a "bodyguard" at a dance, simply because you said "hey" to them a couple of times?
Her Gamorian Guard friend? I'm related to a few "girl's fat friends". They generally make the best guards. The fat one is usually the meanest of the crew too.( Or maybe that is just the ones I share a common ancestor with ) Never ran into one at a dance, but at bars all the time.
What you need is a friend who'll jump on that grenade for you when you go out. When we were in Uni, we used to flip coins or play rock, scissors, paper to see who was going to distract the fat one. If you can get a friend who likes them, it's great because her friend isn't usually a heifer on hind legs. Her sister, probably.
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2011/01/08 01:46:41
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
Monster Rain wrote:I thought it was because there's nothing nerdy about doing laundry and baking pies.
Are you trying to say that I'm a woman? I'll have you know that baking and laundry are very manly activities. At least when I'm doing them. When my wife is doing them they're more feminine.
I made a quiche the other day, and did laundry for hours this morning. Chauvinism fail.
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2011/01/08 02:01:05
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:There are lots of minor superficial changes people I see in game stores could make and increase their appeal significantly.
Typically, when I'm in the game store, I'm hung over (maybe still drunk), unshaven, and probably one of those guys you're referring to. When I'm out at a bar/club/date/social outing, I'm usually clean shaven, or at least not looking like Grizzly Adams, in a nice shirt, and not looking like I'm ready to fall asleep. If there was ever a woman in the FLGS, I'd consider keeping up the appearance, but it is the biggest sausage fest short of a Jimmy Dean convention. You're thinking about responding to that with "well, maybe if you all weren't stinky bastards, there WOULD be." I don't disagree, but I can't change the world, let alone the other nerds.
BTW, the last girl I went on a date with described herself as a nerd. She said she was a nerd and said she was into video games. I found out this means that she played Plants vs. Zombies all the time.
I just say what I do from managing a comic shop for a little over a year at one point. I was very metro (still confused about the bi thing) at the time and guess who had first dibs on all the nerd chicks? I was handsome, well-kempt and able to hold a non-nerdy conversation. Granted I was also taken at the time which both increased appeal and also killed any chance that I was going to go on any sort of wild adventure I tell you though, being "the dude in eyeliner and a Gaga shirt" draws it's fair share of odd looks but I still have first dibs talking to the chicks. I guess the moral of the story is try a little and the people not trying at all around you get dwarfed anyway.
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2011/01/08 02:01:41
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
Well the opposite gender confuses the hell at me. When I hit on a girl, she didn't understand I was hitting on her, and didn't understand anything, I mean if anything she was confused. And it really made me think, what the hell are they teach girls these days?
I mean seriously if any thing, the girl didn't know anything which made me . Another thing I don't understand is when the girls decide that they know everything and don't understand the difference between a fighter and a stalker. >.<
Also another thing why in gods name do they team up on you, if you haven't done anything wrong. not only that but believing you are working on some plan to destroy something, then I had to show them exactly what I do. Map making. >.< It was suppose to be a secret and I was told by the company not to reveal under any circumstances, but I did, so I told my boss, that it was these iduiot girls that believed we were terriosts. And my boss Replied. "Well, the thing is, we get that alot believe it or not, Because of it being called top secret and all that. But we are fine with you telling people who are not involved with Starcraft 2 or Warcraft 3 as they have no idea what it is. So go ahead and ensure you don't give out member information."
After that the girls sorta of thought 'oh he is just a nerd.' Which I am fine with
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2011/01/08 02:54:00
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
You think it is because you have this hobby that you are a nerd... all you need to know that that as you age, women make no more sense to you than they do now...
But! The great thing is that as YOU age, you care less about what women think.
Give it time lads, it all comes together.
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2011/01/08 03:37:47
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
People in general make very little sense, no matter which gender.
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20112011/05/08 08:57:41
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
Monster Rain wrote:I was just under the impression that holding the door meant you had manners.
That's the olden days, now holding the door means that you think she is weak and powerless, you have no respect for her and must lord your masculine superiority over her.
Yeah i got bitched at by one of those equal rights for women nut jobs (im for women having equal rights, she was just a little crazy about it)...
I was like wow, where i grew up you held the door for anyone behind you, male or female, its just a courtesy...
Okay, I'm all for equal rights, but some of them are sexist. Women, when you turn 18, do you have to sign up for Selective Service (the draft, should one ever occur)? No. Does anyone fight for this, or the "not allowing on the frontlines" thing? No. See, women want to keep the good parts of sexism (though those are VERY rare).
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2011/01/08 21:30:09
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
Monster Rain wrote:I was just under the impression that holding the door meant you had manners.
That's the olden days, now holding the door means that you think she is weak and powerless, you have no respect for her and must lord your masculine superiority over her.
Yeah i got bitched at by one of those equal rights for women nut jobs (im for women having equal rights, she was just a little crazy about it)...
I was like wow, where i grew up you held the door for anyone behind you, male or female, its just a courtesy...
Okay, I'm all for equal rights, but some of them are sexist. Women, when you turn 18, do you have to sign up for Selective Service (the draft, should one ever occur)? No. Does anyone fight for this, or the "not allowing on the frontlines" thing? No. See, women want to keep the good parts of sexism (though those are VERY rare).
Meh.
I want to see female soldiers serving on the front lines. I want to see a selective service for both genders. Maybe it's weird for me to say this, but equal rights, equal power, equal privileges, all must be countered by also having equal responsibility.
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2011/01/08 21:31:01
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
Monster Rain wrote:I was just under the impression that holding the door meant you had manners.
That's the olden days, now holding the door means that you think she is weak and powerless, you have no respect for her and must lord your masculine superiority over her.
Yeah i got bitched at by one of those equal rights for women nut jobs (im for women having equal rights, she was just a little crazy about it)...
I was like wow, where i grew up you held the door for anyone behind you, male or female, its just a courtesy...
Okay, I'm all for equal rights, but some of them are sexist. Women, when you turn 18, do you have to sign up for Selective Service (the draft, should one ever occur)? No. Does anyone fight for this, or the "not allowing on the frontlines" thing? No. See, women want to keep the good parts of sexism (though those are VERY rare).
Meh.
I want to see female soldiers serving on the front lines. I want to see a selective service for both genders. Maybe it's weird for me to say this, but equal rights, equal power, equal privileges, all must be countered by also having equal responsibility.
If you are female then this is the first time I have seen a woman with the balls to say that.
2011/01/08 21:32:22
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
Asherian Command wrote:Well the opposite gender confuses the hell at me. When I hit on a girl, she didn't understand I was hitting on her, and didn't understand anything, I mean if anything she was confused. And it really made me think, what the hell are they teach girls these days?
I mean seriously if any thing, the girl didn't know anything which made me . Another thing I don't understand is when the girls decide that they know everything and don't
You think that's bad? Spent 3 months flirting with this girl, asked her out multiple times, and only when I broke it down to the barest essentials ("you, me, date") did she realize that I wasn't gay.
2011/01/08 21:42:19
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
The people in the past who convinced themselves to do unspeakable things were no less human than you or I. They made their decisions; the only thing that prevents history from repeating itself is making different ones.
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2011/01/08 21:46:11
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
I remember a friend from Canada who couldn't get it in this guy's head that she really, honestly was a lesbian, and wasn't just using that as an excuse not to date him. She had been dating the same woman for five years at the time.
Because apparently it's assumed that all lesbians must have butch haircuts...
The people in the past who convinced themselves to do unspeakable things were no less human than you or I. They made their decisions; the only thing that prevents history from repeating itself is making different ones.
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2011/01/08 21:53:20
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
Melissia wrote:I remember a friend from Canada who couldn't get it in this guy's head that she really, honestly was a lesbian, and wasn't just using that as an excuse not to date him. She had been dating the same woman for five years at the time.
Because apparently it's assumed that all lesbians must have butch haircuts...
Strange, none of the lesbians I know are butch.
2011/01/08 21:56:03
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
I like Canada. Don't make me sick the canadian bear-riding lumberjack cavalry on you.
The people in the past who convinced themselves to do unspeakable things were no less human than you or I. They made their decisions; the only thing that prevents history from repeating itself is making different ones.
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2011/01/08 22:05:23
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
Asherian Command wrote:Why is every women except for the miniority in the chicagoland area dumb and paranoid?
Because every person except the minority in the Chicagoland area is dumb and paranoid, and women are also people so this applies to us too?
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) Never ran into one at a dance, but at bars all the time.
. Another thing I don't understand is when the girls decide that they know everything and don't understand the difference between a fighter and a stalker. >.<
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