Daemonhammer wrote: For me confidence isnt really a problem, i just have pesonality problem, at times i have a good humor and at other times i can feel depressed for no apparent reason.
Go see a therapist, counselor, or psychologist. Now. Get that gak under control or it will controll you for the rest of your life.
Even if i wanted to, i couldnt, im just a poor student.
To your parents.
Also, many colleges will have nurses and/or school doctors that will point you in the right direction. You school probably has a program.
Daemonhammer wrote: I wonder how far i could go with a "Terry Pratchett ish" approach, "You are only as atractive as you think you are".
Terry Pratchett said what? In which book? No spoiler though, please .
Some story. About one year ago, I was with my family, in a ferry that linked Albania to Italy, going back from some holidays we spent there. We had not rented any cabin, only some seats in a big common room. So, a bit late at night, I go back to my seat to try to sleep a bit. I try to do as few noise as possible, but there is this girl looking at me with some pretty intense, pretty dark gaze, like “Why the hell are you doing that much noise, I hope you die a slow and painful death”. Even after I reach my seat, she seems to continue to look in my direction. Well, what can I do about it? So, I manage to sleep a bit, and then get up again and do stuff, but every time I happen to be in that girls' vicinity, she stares at me with her dark gaze. Damn, she certainly holds a grudge. After some time though, I start asking myself: is she really staring at me because she is angry at me? Well, I am less and less sure of it. Finally, I take advantage of the fact the ferry is late to initiate a conversation by asking her if she knew why and when we would arrive. Well, it turns out she apparently did not wish for me to die a slow and painful death after all . I guess it was the only time I felt I was attractive to some girl, which is a bit strange by the way because it happened before I cut out all my long hair and beard that made me look like some kind of Robinson Crusoe. Anyhow, of course, she barely spoke a little bit of English (and I speak neither Italian nor Albanian), was only 19 and lived in Italy, more than a thousand kilometers away, so unsurprisingly I never saw her again .
Daemonhammer wrote: For me confidence isnt really a problem, i just have pesonality problem, at times i have a good humor and at other times i can feel depressed for no apparent reason.
Go see a therapist, counselor, or psychologist. Now. Get that gak under control or it will controll you for the rest of your life.
Even if i wanted to, i couldnt, im just a poor student.
To your parents.
Also, many colleges will have nurses and/or school doctors that will point you in the right direction. You school probably has a program.
Log off DakkaDakka and go look into it.
Its not too bad. And i dont want people to make a big deal out of it.
Terry Pratchett said what? In which book? No spoiler though, please
Well not exactly that but the closest thing is "You are only as old as you think you are.", Its the same line of tought really. And there are similar lines in different places. For example how walking trough walls works on the disc.
Daemonhammer wrote: For me confidence isnt really a problem, i just have pesonality problem, at times i have a good humor and at other times i can feel depressed for no apparent reason.
Go see a therapist, counselor, or psychologist. Now. Get that gak under control or it will controll you for the rest of your life.
Even if i wanted to, i couldnt, im just a poor student.
To your parents.
Also, many colleges will have nurses and/or school doctors that will point you in the right direction. You school probably has a program.
Log off DakkaDakka and go look into it.
Its not too bad. And i dont want people to make a big deal out of it.
Dude, Kronk speaks the truth.
Just ask around even if you do the 'I'm asking for a friend' thing. You will probably find yourself surprised then totally amazed at what you can actually do with the right tools.
Daemonhammer wrote: For me confidence isnt really a problem, i just have pesonality problem, at times i have a good humor and at other times i can feel depressed for no apparent reason.
Go see a therapist, counselor, or psychologist. Now. Get that gak under control or it will controll you for the rest of your life.
Even if i wanted to, i couldnt, im just a poor student.
To your parents.
Also, many colleges will have nurses and/or school doctors that will point you in the right direction. You school probably has a program.
Log off DakkaDakka and go look into it.
Its not too bad. And i dont want people to make a big deal out of it.
I'm done trying to convince you, but ignoring it is REALLY dumb.
Its very nice of you people to care, but unfortunately if i did people here will straight away assume i have a bipolar disorder, and therefore i must have suicidal tendencies. Its a steep hill from there.
Regarding the expectations thing, I see that a lot too. I think people do it so they can avoid actually doing anything. Instead they can just shrug theirshoulders and say, "He/She wasn't the right one." It is easier emotionally than getting declined or shotdown all the time.
Instead of fixating on getting a date, just go out there and try to have fun and meet people who are the opposite sex. You will be amazed what happens when you take the pressure off yourself to find "The One".
Easy E wrote: Instead of fixating on getting a date, just go out there and try to have fun and meet people who are the opposite sex. You will be amazed what happens when you take the pressure off yourself to find "The One".
My 26/25 years of “not trying to find the one”, or even a date, do not point this way. Arguably I was not meeting a lot of people of the opposite sex though.
Regarding the expectations thing, I see that a lot too. I think people do it so they can avoid actually doing anything. Instead they can just shrug theirshoulders and say, "He/She wasn't the right one." It is easier emotionally than getting declined or shotdown all the time.
Instead of fixating on getting a date, just go out there and try to have fun and meet people who are the opposite sex. You will be amazed what happens when you take the pressure off yourself to find "The One".
I tend to thing that relationships have sort of natural curve - they either last, or they don't, but it's really nothing you should worry about, as you can't really affect the end result too much. Assuming of course that you're a normal civilised person, et cetera.
I agree that where you should put the emphasis is chatting with as many interesting people of the opposite/desired sex as possible - without too many expectations. There's always a good probability that the said person is in a relationship, not interesting or not interested, but occasionally you bump to someone who's fun, available and into you.
Put in wargamer terms - if you need to roll 6+'s, expect a few fails and throw dice by the bucket! And no-one likes a sore loser - it's about having fun. Um, so basically, play it like you would play Orks?
Regarding the expectations thing, I see that a lot too. I think people do it so they can avoid actually doing anything. Instead they can just shrug theirshoulders and say, "He/She wasn't the right one." It is easier emotionally than getting declined or shotdown all the time.
Instead of fixating on getting a date, just go out there and try to have fun and meet people who are the opposite sex. You will be amazed what happens when you take the pressure off yourself to find "The One".
I tend to thing that relationships have sort of natural curve - they either last, or they don't, but it's really nothing you should worry about, as you can't really affect the end result too much. Assuming of course that you're a normal civilised person, et cetera.
I agree that where you should put the emphasis is chatting with as many interesting people of the opposite/desired sex as possible - without too many expectations. There's always a good probability that the said person is in a relationship, not interesting or not interested, but occasionally you bump to someone who's fun, available and into you.
Put in wargamer terms - if you need to roll 6+'s, expect a few fails and throw dice by the bucket! And no-one likes a sore loser - it's about having fun. Um, so basically, play it like you would play Orks?
No gak, I actually DO play Orks!
You are so right, by the way. That is basically the way I live my life. I'm sure the main armies we play say a lot about us actually.
If you play Nurgle you're obviously going to be single for the rest of your life, unless you find a fellow unwashed TFG to mate with.
If you play Khorne you're probably going to have lots of first dates, but eventually you'll be in the news when the police find all the bodies in your basement.
If you play Tzeentch you'll have a series of marriages and divorces, but somehow you'll always end up with more wealth and power than you started with.
If you play Slaanesh you'll probably never have a long-term relationship, but you'll have tons of anonymous hookups and wild kinky sex.
If you play a mixed army you're doomed to a boring life with 1950s gender roles, 2.5 kids, a pet, and you'll be constantly jealous of the people who had the decency to at least have a little character in their lives.
You're part of a biker gang and don't need this thread because everyone is attracted to your aura of danger and sexy leather outfit.
Or a Tau army?
Anime fanboy/fangirl, and doomed to die alone. But hey, at least you can get a pillow of your favorite character to cuddle every night as you cry yourself to sleep!
I highly doubt that anime fanboys have any problem mating with anime fangirls, and vice versa. Actually, that might even given them occasion to find potential partners at big festival like Japan Expo. Though I guess that is a very French thing because we are so full of weeabos .
Here Comicon is like a silly side note to Japan Expo. Something tell me it is quite different in the U.S.A.
(And let us not forget the many horror that Japanese cartoons for, hum, adults (not necessarily always for mature adults, though) have brought to the world. Well, actually, forgetting them might be better.)
Ehhh,I have given up on trying to find a girl that shares All my interests. I mostly want one that understands my interests.
Except MLP. Im dropping that gak fast.
I highly doubt that anime fanboys have any problem mating with anime fangirls, and vice versa. Actually, that might even given them occasion to find potential partners at big festival like Japan Expo. Though I guess that is a very French thing because we are so full of weeabos .
Here Comicon is like a silly side note to Japan Expo. Something tell me it is quite different in the U.S.A.
(And let us not forget the many horror that Japanese cartoons for, hum, adults (not necessarily always for mature adults, though) have brought to the world. Well, actually, forgetting them might be better.)
Don't anime fanboys outnumber the gals about 2 to 1 or the guys just more vocal about it?
hotsauceman1 wrote:Ehhh,I have given up on trying to find a girl that shares All my interests. I mostly want one that understands my interests.
Except MLP. Im dropping that gak fast.
What what what? You're dropping MLP?!
Spoiler:
imo, there is nothing wrong with just watching the show, but going beyond that is where it starts to get weird.
That is kinda what im doing. Im giving alot of(Most of it actually)
to my nieces. I may keep one for any daughter I have.
It was fun, but I was using it as an excuse to not change.
And it is weird.
trexmeyer wrote: Don't anime fanboys outnumber the gals about 2 to 1
Not sure, it seems pretty popular with girls too. I could even imagine the girls outnumbering the boys in France. Not sure though. I never went anywhere close to the Japan Expo, as I am really not much into that personally. I just like Japanese live action movies way better than their anime.
trexmeyer wrote: imo, there is nothing wrong with just watching the show, but going beyond that is where it starts to get weird.
I watched one episode once. It was pretty underwhelming imo. As far as children shows, it has nothing on Kaeloo. Kaeloo rocks! There is barely any episode devoid of chainsaws or rocket-launchers, and exposing children to a big enough dose of this show is sure to turn them mad. They got one episode where becoming a teenager is like a freaking disease and it makes you disappear from the imaginary land (the setting of the show), because old people are boring and useless and sad or something. AWESOME. Also one of the main character is called slumpy. And it sounds worse in French, I guess.
Kaeloo and Dye's Fantasy music video, along with Quentin Dupieux's movie are proof that we still can do a few cool stuff in France .
Huh, that sounds kind of like Kids Next Door, a cartoon show about a spy agency (really more like a shadow government) run entirely by kids under the age of 13 who fight to protect children from the tyranny of adults and teenagers (who are often themed like various supervillains, etc). Once an operative reaches the age of 13 (iirc) they have their mind wiped to prevent their secrets from falling into the hands of the teenagers (and their adult allies).
Well, there are no adults on the imaginary land. Only the naive but well-meaning banneresque frog Kaeloo and her hulkesque alter-ego, Stumpy the hyper-active very immature squirrel, Quack-Quack the frankenstein-monsteresque, yoghurt-loving, extremely phlegmatic, indestructible duck and the cynic, violent, deceitful Mr Cat. They play games together. For instance, when they start looking for the grail, they parody Indiana Jones so Mr Car dress as a nazi and start talking with a German accent. I am not even making this up. And they show that on kid's TV program .
I highly doubt that anime fanboys have any problem mating with anime fangirls, and vice versa. Actually, that might even given them occasion to find potential partners at big festival like Japan Expo. Though I guess that is a very French thing because we are so full of weeabos .
Here Comicon is like a silly side note to Japan Expo. Something tell me it is quite different in the U.S.A.
(And let us not forget the many horror that Japanese cartoons for, hum, adults (not necessarily always for mature adults, though) have brought to the world. Well, actually, forgetting them might be better.)
Don't anime fanboys outnumber the gals about 2 to 1 or the guys just more vocal about it?
I know more girls that like anime than guys.
I mean none of my dormmates watch anime, yet every girl in the art institute and Game design school that I have met have all said they love anime.
If you cant afford a harley, why not try a bike. It looks nice, its a good way to stay in shape AND its a means of transport! What more could you want?
I am interested in how MLP allowed you to stay the same?
Also, a lot of people go to college and try to reinvent themselves. Just make sur ethe person you reinvent yourself into is a person you actually WANT to be and not just who you think you are SUPPOSED to be.
Don't give up on girls, just change your focus to getting in interesting conversations and sitautions with people from the opposite sex. I guarantee that things will happen for you and you will have a decent time in the process.
Mostly I was saying sometimes to myself "If a girl doesnt like it she isnt the girl I want to be with her" MLP for me was escapism to the extreme
Im not giving up on girls. Not thing the slightest. Im not looking for a relationship now because im off to a university. In the middle of nowhere. But once I get there we will see what happens.
Daemonhammer wrote: If you cant afford a harley, why not try a bike. It looks nice, its a good way to stay in shape AND its a means of transport!
Bikes are cool, I love them and use them every day to go to my lab. But really, they do not make me look muscled or anything. Just skinny. I am hoping climbing will make me muscled though.
Daemonhammer wrote: If you cant afford a harley, why not try a bike. It looks nice, its a good way to stay in shape AND its a means of transport!
Bikes are cool, I love them and use them every day to go to my lab. But really, they do not make me look muscled or anything. Just skinny. I am hoping climbing will make me muscled though.
It will, you just need to work on core exercises and be able to do pull ups quite easily.
Also for some dating advice,
What usually wows the girls is the following.
Back Muscles.
Yep. For some odd reason women really like back muscles O.o
Okay, I take it back, it's awesome if its your dad's, lets just say its not the coolest bike to be driving for a young guy. Also not a fan of Harleys but that is another matter. Chicks dig bikes as I've found out from chatting about my own bike restoration project at parties and stuff. I'm currently learning how to cook for Uni next month so that'll be a great new tool to impress ladies.
Daemonhammer wrote: If you cant afford a harley, why not try a bike. It looks nice, its a good way to stay in shape AND its a means of transport!
Bikes are cool, I love them and use them every day to go to my lab. But really, they do not make me look muscled or anything. Just skinny. I am hoping climbing will make me muscled though.
It will, you just need to work on core exercises and be able to do pull ups quite easily.
Also for some dating advice,
What usually wows the girls is the following.
Back Muscles.
Yep. For some odd reason women really like back muscles O.o
Oh yes, a solid set of well-shaped back muscles is really hot.
Being fit is definitely important. However, having lived all over the place I can assure you the number one thing that "wows" girls everywhere is good banter. Make them laugh. Make good conversation.
Daemonhammer wrote: If you cant afford a harley, why not try a bike. It looks nice, its a good way to stay in shape AND its a means of transport!
Bikes are cool, I love them and use them every day to go to my lab. But really, they do not make me look muscled or anything. Just skinny. I am hoping climbing will make me muscled though.
It will, you just need to work on core exercises and be able to do pull ups quite easily.
Also for some dating advice,
What usually wows the girls is the following.
Back Muscles.
Yep. For some odd reason women really like back muscles O.o
Oh yes, a solid set of well-shaped back muscles is really hot.
Which is odd considering how little of them you'll see lol
Daemonhammer wrote: If you cant afford a harley, why not try a bike. It looks nice, its a good way to stay in shape AND its a means of transport!
Bikes are cool, I love them and use them every day to go to my lab. But really, they do not make me look muscled or anything. Just skinny. I am hoping climbing will make me muscled though.
It will, you just need to work on core exercises and be able to do pull ups quite easily.
Also for some dating advice,
What usually wows the girls is the following.
Back Muscles.
Yep. For some odd reason women really like back muscles O.o
Oh yes, a solid set of well-shaped back muscles is really hot.
Which is odd considering how little of them you'll see lol
Daemonhammer wrote: If you cant afford a harley, why not try a bike. It looks nice, its a good way to stay in shape AND its a means of transport!
Bikes are cool, I love them and use them every day to go to my lab. But really, they do not make me look muscled or anything. Just skinny. I am hoping climbing will make me muscled though.
It will, you just need to work on core exercises and be able to do pull ups quite easily.
Also for some dating advice,
What usually wows the girls is the following.
Back Muscles.
Yep. For some odd reason women really like back muscles O.o
Oh yes, a solid set of well-shaped back muscles is really hot.
Which is odd considering how little of them you'll see lol
But you can fondle them and stuff!
If you're ever in the northeastern US (and preferably over 18 because it might be kinda weird otherwise), look me up, I'll make you dinner in exchange for a back massage
Yep. For some odd reason women really like back muscles O.o
I spoke about back muscles earlier in this thread. I can totally see why, at least when climbing.
chaos0xomega wrote: If you're ever in the northeastern US (and preferably over 18 because it might be kinda weird otherwise), look me up, I'll make you dinner in exchange for a back massage
I was paying attention, hence why I said over 18/in northeastern US.... I mean shes not going to stay 17 forever, and people travel... jeez nobody knows how to take a joke
Barksdale wrote: Being fit is definitely important. However, having lived all over the place I can assure you the number one thing that "wows" girls everywhere is good banter. Make them laugh. Make good conversation.
This. This is excellent advice.
Muscles help with certain types of girls, yet many also like "love-handles" on a man. When you look well groomed, like you showered, put some deodorant under your armpits, some after shave and cleanly shaven (or a tidy beard), you really don't need those muscles that much. This in comination with Barksdale's advice will help tremendously with dating.
Again; Don't set the bar too high. Don't go after that hotty every guy wants. Go for the girl who maybe has the same trouble in finding a date as you. Sure, she may not be miss universe, but a lasting relationship almost never involves a "Trophy Wife".
Low_K wrote: Again; Don't set the bar too high. Don't go after that hotty every guy wants. Go for the girl who maybe has the same trouble in finding a date as you. Sure, she may not be miss universe, but a lasting relationship almost never involves a "Trophy Wife".
I am always confused about that advice. I mean, to go back to the last time we spoke about it, Nuggz said that:
You probably have a snowball's chance in hell unless you're filthy rich. However, you might have a shot with a girl who looks like this:
Not only because you're more ballpark in terms of physical attractiveness, but because you probably have similar lifestyles.
I am going to skip over the first picture. If that first girl spend 80% of her time rambling about how the purity of the white race is being diluted, and the rest of the time complaining about traffic, while the other one, though undeniably fat, actually has what a very interesting conversation, that not only shares a lot of your interest but also makes you discover new things you would never have known and enjoyed otherwise, which one would you consider dating? I am pretty sure nobody wants to date Hitlerella (except maybe other white supremacists ).
I am pretty sure some physically unattractive women have a much, much easier time dating than some more attractive women because, well, people are not picture. And I am not speaking moralist stupid “inner beauty”, I am speaking wanting to spend more time with the woman you are having better times with.
Being physically attractive will certainly draw attention to you, but to keep that attention you need something else, I think.
So, yeah, I am not going to only talk to extremely beautiful girls. However, I am also not going to try to get in a romantic relationship with a girl I am not attracted to, that would be stupid. It is a good thing that attractive is a very subjective notion, especially when going beyond just physical attractiveness.
Barksdale wrote: Being fit is definitely important. However, having lived all over the place I can assure you the number one thing that "wows" girls everywhere is good banter. Make them laugh. Make good conversation.
This. This is excellent advice.
I'm going to point this out again. Banter is definately something that works well. And dont be afraid to be playfully insulting. It's been working for me for the past month with this one girl.
Yeah, I love a chick that can kick my ass, but I'll stay away from the yandere types... I've never been involved with *that* brand of crazy before, but I've been involved with crazy, stay away...
I remember a friend who went on a first date, the first thing the girl said was if he wanted kids, how many kids he wanted, if he wanted kids would she like to with her....
I never dated before, but my gut reaction was "RUN!!!!!!!!!!"
Easy E wrote: I think the key is to get in front of people that are date-able, but don't worry about finding a date. Just have fun and see what happens.
If you are terrible at knowing when a girl is interested, a third party/nuetral observer/wing man can help you out.
Yes I am quite terrible at figuring that out. Even if there are landing lights pointing me towards that direction.
I don't think bikes are the quickest way to a womans heart.
Cooking for them is.
Like that?
I get a lot of milage out of a series of nesting heart shaped cookie cutters. Some things I’ve done with them for valentines day a/o my anniversary include:
Cutting cheese and ham (both thick sliced quality) into heart shapes for crackers as an appetizer w/ wine & cocktails
Little ham hearts included in pasta w/ a white sauce.
Heart shaped gnocchi.
Jello (raspberry, made thick), set in a sheet, cut into hearts. Used to top chocolate mousse w/ whipped cream
Nothing says “I love you” like heart shaped food. And besides the gnocchi, the other things I did was just taking an extra step to cut shapes, on otherwise simple food prep. So simple, even a bachelor can do it!
I just had a million dollar idea. Why not create a site that would match people based on their interests, and then help them to go on a date? Am i smart or what.
Ok, so I went back to my old JR college to see the new building and say hi to some co-workers.
My friend is now engaged to the crazy girl........
Damn, I have to get a suit
Daemonhammer wrote: I just had a million dollar idea. Why not create a site that would match people based on their interests, and then help them to go on a date? Am i smart or what.
Daemonhammer wrote: I just had a million dollar idea. Why not create a site that would match people based on their interests, and then help them to go on a date? Am i smart or what.
Wait? What? How? What are you talking about? I just posted a link to a dating site oriented toward geeks. Some geek do cosplay, but that is really not the main focus of the site. Were you interested in a dating site for cosplayer ?
Easy E wrote: I think the key is to get in front of people that are date-able, but don't worry about finding a date. Just have fun and see what happens.
If you are terrible at knowing when a girl is interested, a third party/nuetral observer/wing man can help you out.
Yes I am quite terrible at figuring that out. Even if there are landing lights pointing me towards that direction.
quick rule of thumb, if the girl asks you 2 questions in a row, she's interested so after chatting with her ask her out, except strippers, they just want your money.
Last girl that hit on me worked at a starbucks and she was asking me personal questions while she made my coffee. Then told me she was moving to a new store so I could be sure to visit her again.
Somedays I hate being married
While settle for a dating site, get a mail order bride, she'll love you long time until the immigration is done
chaos0xomega wrote: Id be wary of those smaller 'targeted' sites. Ive checked a few of them out, they're mostly just advertising scams filled with fake profiles
Well, the U.S. equivalent from Wikipedia ( http://www.gk2gk.com/ ) sure do not bring up any kind of trust, but that French site seems more reliable. They have been apparently doing quite a bit of real-life advertisement, they have lasting partnership with other real, respectable websites. For instance: http://www.allocine.fr/article/fichearticle_gen_carticle=18610043.html . This website is one of the most accessed in France because it is basically the only one I know that have the time schedule of pretty much every movie theater in France. It has existed for quite a long time, and continue to thrive despite their horrible ad policy.
However I am not sure how efficient dating sites are in general, but this one seems serious enough to be on the level of big mainstream ones.
This is something that a friend recently asked me, and i realize i had no real answer "do you even know how to act on a date?" and I realized, I have no idea what to do on a date at all, how to act, what to talk about....
hotsauceman1 wrote: This is something that a friend recently asked me, and i realize i had no real answer "do you even know how to act on a date?" and I realized, I have no idea what to do on a date at all, how to act, what to talk about....
You can only get so much advice dude, you're eventually going to have to figure out things on your own by trying things and learning from those experiences.
hotsauceman1 wrote: This is something that a friend recently asked me, and i realize i had no real answer "do you even know how to act on a date?" and I realized, I have no idea what to do on a date at all, how to act, what to talk about....
Just act like you normally act in public. If you're trying to put on some special "dating" act it's going to be obvious anyway. And if your normal self can't manage a successful date you might as well fail immediately and not waste time on a doomed effort. Eventually whoever you're on a date with is going to see how you act normally, so trying to act differently just delays the inevitable.
How to act on a date in 5 easy steps with KalashnikovMarine!
1. Don't be a tool
2. Be you, as dorky as you are, that's you, and if she ain't down with that, why waste any time?
3. That said, be you, but with table manners. Doesn't hurt to open a door either.
4. ???
5. Profit.
There's also the Russian theory for courtship rules
Ivan Chesnokov wrote:IN RUSSIA WE ALSO HAVE RULES OF COURTING. DO NOT BRING SIDEARM TO FIRST TIME WITH GIRL. SENDS WRONG MESSAGE, THAT YOU ARE BAD CONSCRIPT WHO WILL RAPE GIRL. ON FIRST TIME HAVE DISCUSSION OF GLORY OF PARTY AND DEFENSE OF MOTHERLAND. ON SECOND TIME MANY DRINKS OF VODKA TO MAKE GIRL WANT feth; MATCHING ENOUGH DRINKS MAKES DANGEROUS TO CARRY SIDEARM. ON THIRD TIME IS DEFINITE feth. AFTER THIS YOU MAY BRING SIDEARM ALL AS LIKED.
You'd think people would see this as something basic. :C
I think that was the joke.
Sadly I know some donkey caves that are racist and are rude on their first dates. AND YET SOMEHOW, they get a girlfriend from it. I swear rich white girls are the strangest breeds ever.
Asherian Command wrote: Sadly I know some donkey caves that are racist and are rude on their first dates. AND YET SOMEHOW, they get a girlfriend from it.
Asherian Command wrote: Sadly I know some donkey caves that are racist and are rude on their first dates. AND YET SOMEHOW, they get a girlfriend from it.
Dating seem easy for other people .
It is, its not suppose to be hard. I mean just converse. Usually for me is the other party that are awkward and shy.
Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote: Well, for me it is not.
[edit]Actually the hard part is getting a date, I think. Afterward, how the hell should I know [/edit]
try a dating site, ask your friends/family to hook you up.
don't start by asking (your preference) you work with. It really makes things awkward if it doesn't work out.
Don't use pick up lines, the best line ever was just:
Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote: Well, for me it is not.
[edit]Actually the hard part is getting a date, I think. Afterward, how the hell should I know [/edit]
try a dating site, ask your friends/family to hook you up.
don't start by asking (your preference) you work with. It really makes things awkward if it doesn't work out.
Don't use pick up lines, the best line ever was just:
'Hello'
This is one of the main things I loathe about Tinder. If you try and start a conversation like you would normally in the real world then it gets ignored, but you also have people who dislike pick-up lines - cheesy, intended to be funny, or otherwise. It's easier if the other person actually has something written on their profile or visible in a photo, but you get so many that have neither of those, won't accept funny lines, and won't accept real-world conversation starters.
Oh, and heaven forbid a female has to talk first...
The only people who take r/redpill seriously are the ones who post in it. It's a fun reddit to mock in small doses, but exposure over a prolonged period tends to provoke a will to throw oneself off a cliff...
The Red Pill: Discussion of sexual strategy in culture.
Its kind of weird.
Just read up on it.
It basically assumes that women are animals and that you can manipulate them into worshipping you by playing them psychologically.
It's absurd.
Yeah I think a lot of people actually follow that frame of mind.
Where women are just dolls for pleasure and are basically slaves to your will.
Its kind of screwed up really. Because in my opinion, and to quote an old classic here. The men are the head, but the woman is the neck, and they can twist it to any direction they want to.
But in all honesty anyone saying they are an alpha male clearly haven't meant a real alpha. They don't have to brag about being the alpha, they are the alpha. They are superior to us all.
Asherian Command wrote: But in all honesty anyone saying they are an alpha male clearly haven't meant a real alpha. They don't have to brag about being the alpha, they are the alpha. They are superior to us all.
Indeed.
Spoiler:
It is very, very difficult to be an alpha male without being a Blood Elf.
Ashiraya wrote: It is very, very difficult to be an alpha male without being a Blood Elf.
On the flip side, how long would that guy seriously last in our world before he got tasered and arrested?
I seriously doubt a taser and an arrest would do anything to someone who has traversed the Dark Portal and smote down the Burning Legion; travelled the frigid wastes of Northrend to topple Naxxramas, fight the might of the Titans and Old Ones, depose the Lich King himself; braved the molten Firelands to slay the fearsome elemental lord Ragnaros once and for all, wage war against the Twilight's Hammer in their own bastion, and eliminate the fearsome Worldbreaker himself; uncovered the dark secrets of Pandaland in the form of the Sha and beat back the darkness that lingered in the mists, stood against the might of the Zanadalari Trolls, and sieged the mighty city of Orgrimmar to see justice brought to the corrupt warchief of the Horde.
Then again, I suppose it would be funny to see a legendary hero serving time, even if it was voluntary. Just don't drop the soap when showering with a Rogue.
Ashiraya wrote: It is very, very difficult to be an alpha male without being a Blood Elf.
On the flip side, how long would that guy seriously last in our world before he got tasered and arrested?
I seriously doubt a taser and an arrest would do anything to someone who has traversed the Dark Portal and smote down the Burning Legion; travelled the frigid wastes of Northrend to topple Naxxramas, fight the might of the Titans and Old Ones, depose the Lich King himself; braved the molten Firelands to slay the fearsome elemental lord Ragnaros once and for all, wage war against the Twilight's Hammer in their own bastion, and eliminate the fearsome Worldbreaker himself; uncovered the dark secrets of Pandaland in the form of the Sha and beat back the darkness that lingered in the mists, stood against the might of the Zanadalari Trolls, and sieged the mighty city of Orgrimmar to see justice brought to the corrupt warchief of the Horde.
Then again, I suppose it would be funny to see a legendary hero serving time, even if it was voluntary. Just don't drop the soap when showering with a Rogue.
Avatar 720 wrote: someone who has traversed the Dark Portal and smote down the Burning Legion; travelled the frigid wastes of Northrend to topple Naxxramas, fight the might of the Titans and Old Ones, depose the Lich King himself; braved the molten Firelands to slay the fearsome elemental lord Ragnaros once and for all, wage war against the Twilight's Hammer in their own bastion, and eliminate the fearsome Worldbreaker himself; uncovered the dark secrets of Pandaland in the form of the Sha and beat back the darkness that lingered in the mists, stood against the might of the Zanadalari Trolls, and sieged the mighty city of Orgrimmar to see justice brought to the corrupt warchief of the Horde.
Avatar 720 wrote: someone who has traversed the Dark Portal and smote down the Burning Legion; travelled the frigid wastes of Northrend to topple Naxxramas, fight the might of the Titans and Old Ones, depose the Lich King himself; braved the molten Firelands to slay the fearsome elemental lord Ragnaros once and for all, wage war against the Twilight's Hammer in their own bastion, and eliminate the fearsome Worldbreaker himself; uncovered the dark secrets of Pandaland in the form of the Sha and beat back the darkness that lingered in the mists, stood against the might of the Zanadalari Trolls, and sieged the mighty city of Orgrimmar to see justice brought to the corrupt warchief of the Horde.
You just described this guy:
Spoiler:
And he does look mighty indeed!
His gear looks solid, but i bet that noob has no gems or ench.
Who are you kidding?
First, the Night Elves were introduced before the Blood Elves (RoC for the Night Elves, TFT for the Blood elves. Yes, the High Elves were present since at least ToD, I know because I played it, but they were not the blood elves yet! Big change of look and theme!)
Second, and that is were the actual, real argument lies, druids of the claw are the only elves that are hairy, and therefore the only elves that are manly .
Trolls be da best (wo)mon!
Apparently, they used to be elves or something, so they count. And back as far as Warcraft II, even when they were not yet voodoo pseudo-Jamaican, they were already the best.
Well, this might help you deal with the waiting, with what was certainly one of the best female vampire I have seen (specifying female only because else, Cassidy comes into the fray):
Warning, very gory and potentially offensive trailer, including ganguroblackface, for the movie Vampire Girl versus Frankenstein Girl.
If you do no want to click, let me just mention that at some point, Frankenstein girl put a bunch of severed arms (or legs, not sure) on top of her head to make a propeller that allows her to fly. Now you know what to expect, in term of realism and good taste .
But trolls win. They are the most awesome species. In every debate on the internet, the result is always that trolls win anyway, so I am just taking a shortcut here!
I found this today and thought we could divert back towards topic
I think it helps to point out that women have the same problems when it comes to dating as men do. So if you try online dating the lesson is, be polite and keep your dates.
Daemonhammer wrote: Just found this on the internets, not quite sure how to react;
Women are vein. So are Men.
It's an inconvenient truth that attraction starts skin-deep. You can have a gak personality and still attract members of the opposite sex if you're conventionally attractive, whereas you can have a great personality and struggle to meet women if you're over/underweight, short, have skin conditions etc. Feminists like to pretend that that's not the case and Men have too much pride to admit it, but it is what it is.
On the other hand, there's ~3.5 billion people on the planet who are not your gender... there really is someone for everyone, you just might have to try more or less than others around you, and frankly the type of people who are attracted to jerkoffs are the types of people you don't want to date anyway.
I disagree, there's some people who are so hideous, have such an unpleasant personality, etc they never find a significant other and they go there whole life never touching another person's genitals except when they're coming out of their mom's vagina during childbirth.
Uh, sure. I guess. But I think those exceptions are so uncommon that noting them would be missing the forest for the trees. You can be 500 pounds and still get a chick- you can be a psychotic murderer/beater and still get a chick.
... you can be Steven Hawking and still get a chick. The super majority of people on this planer really are not undatable, and for those that are, only a few small life-style changes can fix that.
Daemonhammer wrote: Just found this on the internets, not quite sure how to react;
That guy is acting like a jerk, insisting when she clearly not interested.
BlaxicanX wrote: It's an inconvenient truth that attraction starts skin-deep. You can have a gak personality and still attract members of the opposite sex if you're conventionally attractive, whereas you can have a great personality and struggle to meet women if you're over/underweight, short, have skin conditions etc. Feminists like to pretend that that's not the case
I am not sure where you got that.
Cheesecat wrote: I disagree, there's some people who are so hideous, have such an unpleasant personality, etc they never find a significant other and they go there whole life never touching another person's genitals except when they're coming out of their mom's vagina during childbirth.
Well, except when they go in the morgue.
…what, you said they have an extremely unpleasant personality, is it not what people with an extremely unpleasant personality do?
sirlynchmob wrote: I think it helps to point out that women have the same problems when it comes to dating as men do.
Well, not exactly. Apparently, their problem is avoiding all the awful propositions from awful people and getting quality propositions from interesting people. While if a man does not do any kind of propositions and wait for them, unless he is incredibly hot or rich, I guess he can wait for quite a long time, even for unwanted ones.
In my experience, the idea that disrespecting women and/or just having a gakky personality in general for various reasons will result in being unable to pick up women is a patently false sentiment that I've heard from Feminists very often.
It's not just Feminists granted. Lots of people wish attraction was more romantic than it often is, I guess.
Actually, I think it is a sentiment you would hear from a lot of women, because no-one wants to acknowledge getting into a relationship with jerks. And I guess few men would acknowledge getting into relationships with jerks either.
BlaxicanX wrote: Uh, sure. I guess. But I think those exceptions are so uncommon that noting them would be missing the forest for the trees. You can be 500 pounds and still get a chick- you can be a psychotic murderer/beater and still get a chick.
... you can be Steven Hawking and still get a chick. The super majority of people on this planer really are not undatable, and for those that are, only a few small life-style changes can fix that.
Yeah, you're right I being captain hyperbole over here.
BlaxicanX wrote: Uh, sure. I guess. But I think those exceptions are so uncommon that noting them would be missing the forest for the trees. You can be 500 pounds and still get a chick- you can be a psychotic murderer/beater and still get a chick.
... you can be Steven Hawking and still get a chick. The super majority of people on this planer really are not undatable, and for those that are, only a few small life-style changes can fix that.
Yeah, you're right I being captain hyperbole over here.
I read that some people aren't sure what to say after "Hello".
If you want to be a good conversationalist, this is what you do.
1. Start with a greeting so the person knows you are going to talk to them.
2. Ask them a question.
3. Listen closely to the answer.
4. Ask a follow-up question.
5. Listen closely to the answer
6. Add a related comment about your life which ends with a question.
By asking the questions, you are constantly moving the conversation forward. If you show a genuine interest in someone else then the conversation will continue.
Easy E wrote: I read that some people aren't sure what to say after "Hello".
If you want to be a good conversationalist, this is what you do.
1. Start with a greeting so the person knows you are going to talk to them.
2. Ask them a question.
3. Listen closely to the answer.
4. Ask a follow-up question.
5. Listen closely to the answer
6. Add a related comment about your life which ends with a question.
By asking the questions, you are constantly moving the conversation forward. If you show a genuine interest in someone else then the conversation will continue.
Easy E wrote: I read that some people aren't sure what to say after "Hello".
If you want to be a good conversationalist, this is what you do.
1. Start with a greeting so the person knows you are going to talk to them.
2. Ask them a question.
3. Listen closely to the answer.
4. Ask a follow-up question.
5. Listen closely to the answer
6. Add a related comment about your life which ends with a question.
By asking the questions, you are constantly moving the conversation forward. If you show a genuine interest in someone else then the conversation will continue.
Is that a cold approach or does it apply to someone you know
Well, I might as well ask here.
I'd just like to say, I'm not one to post my problems on the Internet. I have no form of social media, and am subscribed exclusively to THIS forum.
I'd like to note, I am 15. And confused.
I've never really understood the entire point of 'dating', even marriage seems just a mannor of owner-ship, granted a two-way one.
Anyway, For the last two odd years, I have been good friends with a girl. Recently, she invited me to the cinemas.
I accepted. On the weekend, We saw the movie, guardians of the galaxy, had lunch and spent an hour or two in an arcade.
After returning to school, a number of her friends began making comments suggesting me and her to be a couple. She seemed somewhat annoyed by this.
Later she suggested we see another movie together, to which I responded positively.
The thing is, a few day later, and a few days ago, she told me (I don't remember what we were talking about) that she has a boyfriend in America. She also had a picture. This was surprising.
For one thing, I had begun to consider that she may be attracted to me, for another, it was rediculously out of the blue. She'd never talked about this person before, and a friend of hers who I talked to hadn't heard of him. a friend of mine has theorised that she may be lying to make me jealous, but honestly, i can't imagine some one being so attracted to me as to lie. (let's just say that I'm not the skinniest, or tallest tenth grader.
I'm confused, and random people on the Internet seem the best people to ask advise.
Random people on the internet ALWAYS have the best advice.
So there's a few ways to proceed to here. I'm going to throw out a brief analysis and some options.
Analysis: This is just my two bits based on the snap shot you gave us. Chances are she's actually involved with Mr. Murrica, and has been for a little bit. She might not have had the guts to tell any one about it, or was just keeping it to herself for privacy reasons, but her getting annoyed when people were suggesting you two were a couple seems to support the idea of another player. Telling you could be her way of ensuring the air's clear as you continue to hang out, if it's really not something she's told other people* then it could also be a sign of her trusting you. Which is a good thing.
Option 1: Roll with it. Just keep seeing how things go. You're friends, you enjoy each other's company, while listen to the gossip?
Option 2: The Full Revy option is of course to check your charge distance and, stand back kids this is a revolutionary concept, just talk to her about it. There's a million misunderstandings in this world that could all be cleared up in an instant if the people involved just had a chat about it.
Side note, don't rag on yourself too hard about your height or weight. We're our own worst critics on such things, so how you see yourself is never how other people see you for one, and for two no matter how you are that doesn't mean people won't like you as is. She clearly enjoys your company eh? So you can't be all that bad.
*Here in the states at least there's a long running gag about people with boyfriends/girlfriends in Canada, or any other foreign climb and place actually not having SOs and making them up to seem cool. I'm guessing there's a local equivalent just about wherever you go, mix that with continuing stigma against online relationships and there you go. Plenty of valid reasons to play your romance tight to the vest.
Side note, don't rag on yourself too hard about your height or weight. We're our own worst critics on such things, so how you see yourself is never how other people see you for one, and for two no matter how you are that doesn't mean people won't like you as is. She clearly enjoys your company eh? So you can't be all that bad.
100% true. I was talking to my co-worker about after seeing my hair buzzed cut I might shave it completely. She said it looked fine and I should keep it like that. I told her Im balding. She laughed and said "You are? I dont see it, you are imagining things" and everyone else agreed I was imagining it.
Its like Micheal Jacksons Nose. We saw a perfectly good nose. He saw a giant monstrosity that had to get fixed. Its like that tiny spot on your shirt you are afraid everyone will notice. They really wont
Instead of reading the whole book, just read this:
Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
1. Don't criticize, condemn or complain.
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.
________________________________________
Part Two
Six ways to make people like you
1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
2. Smile.
3. Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
6. Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.
________________________________________
Part Three
Win people to your way of thinking
1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
2. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."
3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
4. Begin in a friendly way.
5. Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.
6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
8. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
9. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
10. Appeal to the nobler motives.
11. Dramatize your ideas.
12. Throw down a challenge.
________________________________________
Part Four
Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment
A leader's job often includes changing your people's attitudes and behavior. Some suggestions to accomplish this:
1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5. Let the other person save face.
6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be "hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise."
7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.
Instead of reading the whole book, just read this:
Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
1. Don't criticize, condemn or complain.
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.
________________________________________
Part Two
Six ways to make people like you
1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
2. Smile.
3. Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
6. Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.
________________________________________
Part Three
Win people to your way of thinking
1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
2. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."
3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
4. Begin in a friendly way.
5. Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.
6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
8. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
9. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
10. Appeal to the nobler motives.
11. Dramatize your ideas.
12. Throw down a challenge.
________________________________________
Part Four
Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment
A leader's job often includes changing your people's attitudes and behavior. Some suggestions to accomplish this:
1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5. Let the other person save face.
6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be "hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise."
7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.
Funny how it says dont criticize because sometimes in order to be a friend you sorta have to criticize to help your friend. Of course its called constructive criticism.
Funny how it says dont criticize because sometimes in order to be a friend you sorta have to criticize to help your friend. Of course its called constructive criticism.
So my coffee date for tomorrow has challenged me to a duel, rapiers, at 10:00 sharp. I am now rather excited for this date. Hot redhead, wants to stab me or be run through by me in turn... I'm in!
Funny how it says dont criticize because sometimes in order to be a friend you sorta have to criticize to help your friend. Of course its called constructive criticism.
You're being a friend. He's winning friends.
Hahaha. Yeah i am just unlucky i criticize myself more than other people, and people view that in quite a negative light. (for some reason)
I mean I am confident in my abilities, but not too confident, I know what I can do, and what I can't do.
KalashnikovMarine wrote: So my coffee date for tomorrow has challenged me to a duel, rapiers, at 10:00 sharp. I am now rather excited for this date. Hot redhead, wants to stab me or be run through by me in turn... I'm in!
speaking generally,
I'd suggest trying to keep the scores close, then you can schedule another date for a rematch.
the more you win, the less the odds for another date.
KalashnikovMarine wrote: So my coffee date for tomorrow has challenged me to a duel, rapiers, at 10:00 sharp. I am now rather excited for this date. Hot redhead, wants to stab me or be run through by me in turn... I'm in!
speaking generally,
I'd suggest trying to keep the scores close, then you can schedule another date for a rematch.
the more you win, the less the odds for another date.
Agreed, if you intentionally lose, it will hopefully show that you care about the other person. And hopefully they don't take it as an offense.
I dont know Scars on Girls are hot.
Y'know, I have to say, I was getting bummed for being rejected at first(It still sucks, even if she was nice about it) But I finally realize that im off to college, and with that nagging voice in my head saying "She will just say No, dont bother" gone. I hope to update soon with more attempts
Hallelujah another sinner saved! Haha. That's definitely the right attitude to have hotsauce, just keep thinking like that and you'll do just fine, especially on a college campus of even middlin size.
Sadly, it is a Gigantic campus. Imagine if a village in the mountains with house far apart. that is what UCSC is like. It is quite possible to go in that campus, and wake up with a deer in your car.
I am not worried about the students, I am worried about feeling old. I have been teaching for the last three years during my PhD, it was easy. Beside, they are computer engineering (or maybe computer science this year ) students, so they are likely not high, they just spent their whole night playing video games.
Which is the good point in all that: I will have a pretty easy time recruiting partners to play Strife, I guess .
So, as of last week I'm single again and on the prowl. Things have been very...interesting...since my life is divided between PA and MI basically. Hooked up with a few girls while I was home but nothing progressed too far except...
Went to a cookout at a friend's house...same crowd as the block party I was at a few weeks ago. At the block party, I met my friend's wife's sister and we struck up a conversation. At one point, one of the kids there threw water on her, and she said to me "I'm absolutely soaked!" and grabbed my hand and put it on her leg, at which point I told her I was seeing someone. We exchanged e-mails but didn't really talk. Anyway, I see her at this cookout on Sunday. We start chatting it up and I told her that the relationship wasn't really a thing anymore. I could tell that the wheels were turning in her head. Anyway, everybody was wasted but neither of us were drinking.
I gave her a look and asked if she's thinking what I'm thinking. She responded, "I dunno...what are you thinking? Because I'm probably thinking the same thing..." I said that I give our odds of sneaking away without getting caught are pretty low. She goes "Well...it isn't impossible..." Anyway we snuck downstairs and screwed in the basement while everyone else was hammered drunk outside lol
Anyway, I get back to MI and trainwreck (the girl I broke up with...she became a full blown alcoholic while we were dating and a pathological liar. Hence the breakup - I don't have time for that gak) hits me up...she's been hitting me up nonstop all week. I tell her we can MAYBE be friends with benefits if she can turn her life around, and reevaluate then. Anyway, since I've gotten back up here I've been fooling around with her and semi-rekindling a more-than-friendship with my old research assistant. No solid plans yet but it's pretty much only a matter of time.
As if that's not enough conflict-of-interests for you, I'm on Tinder the other day and I see a former student of mine. Hmmmmm...to swipe yes or no? feth it, YOLO, I swiped right and to my surprise, "it's a match." Anyway, I send her, "Well if this isn't awkward..." She writes back..."It's only awkward if you want it to be " So apparently that's a thing.
Wish me luck gents. I've traveled a hard path in the past, but I know that this next semester will be full of all sorts of debauchery, and my body is ready.
NuggzTheNinja wrote: So, as of last week I'm single again and on the prowl. Things have been very...interesting...since my life is divided between PA and MI basically. Hooked up with a few girls while I was home but nothing progressed too far except...
Went to a cookout at a friend's house...same crowd as the block party I was at a few weeks ago. At the block party, I met my friend's wife's sister and we struck up a conversation. At one point, one of the kids there threw water on her, and she said to me "I'm absolutely soaked!" and grabbed my hand and put it on her leg, at which point I told her I was seeing someone. We exchanged e-mails but didn't really talk. Anyway, I see her at this cookout on Sunday. We start chatting it up and I told her that the relationship wasn't really a thing anymore. I could tell that the wheels were turning in her head. Anyway, everybody was wasted but neither of us were drinking.
I gave her a look and asked if she's thinking what I'm thinking. She responded, "I dunno...what are you thinking? Because I'm probably thinking the same thing..." I said that I give our odds of sneaking away without getting caught are pretty low. She goes "Well...it isn't impossible..." Anyway we snuck downstairs and screwed in the basement while everyone else was hammered drunk outside lol
Anyway, I get back to MI and trainwreck (the girl I broke up with...she became a full blown alcoholic while we were dating and a pathological liar. Hence the breakup - I don't have time for that gak) hits me up...she's been hitting me up nonstop all week. I tell her we can MAYBE be friends with benefits if she can turn her life around, and reevaluate then. Anyway, since I've gotten back up here I've been fooling around with her and semi-rekindling a more-than-friendship with my old research assistant. No solid plans yet but it's pretty much only a matter of time.
As if that's not enough conflict-of-interests for you, I'm on Tinder the other day and I see a former student of mine. Hmmmmm...to swipe yes or no? feth it, YOLO, I swiped right and to my surprise, "it's a match." Anyway, I send her, "Well if this isn't awkward..." She writes back..."It's only awkward if you want it to be " So apparently that's a thing.
Wish me luck gents. I've traveled a hard path in the past, but I know that this next semester will be full of all sorts of debauchery, and my body is ready.
Luck. Don't forget to stretch, you aren't as young as you used to be.
Having had some experience with females across different hair colors, ethnic backgrounds, etc., I'd strongly advise against buying into any of the stereotypes or making sweeping generalizations. As I think we've discussed here before, the guy who invented the bit about Asian girls being deferential, submissive, etc. needs to get his head kicked in. Man o man.
Anyway, my personal experience and opinion is that there's a lot of complexity and individuality with women, and that expresses itself in a lot of different ways. As I said earlier, you have to learn how to be a better boyfriend, and each girl you date will be another step along that path. HOWEVER, there will also be those things that you "learn" from one girl that really, really don't apply to the next. You'll never stop learning.
gorgon wrote: Having had some experience with females across different hair colors, ethnic backgrounds, etc., I'd strongly advise against buying into any of the stereotypes or making sweeping generalizations.
Well, it is one thing to make sweeping generalization on how people behave, but it is something completely different to be more attracted to some specific looks, is it not?
Does not mean I will only date people with that look. Actually, I would totally date someone who is physically not attractive to me if she is attractive in other ways.
My comment wasn't really aimed at you. It was thrown more in the direction of the ginger talk. Obviously everyone has their physical preferences or likes. Don't get TOO picky, though.
Redheads get bonus points from me, but they still need decent totals in other scores. I won't be with someone abusive or whatever just because they're a redhead, but if I had to choose between two people who were equally attractive except one was a redhead...
i mean, aren't we supposed to judge people based on the beauty of their personality, not their outer beauty. oh wait, i'm a guy, never mind.
redhead is best, than brown, than blonde, than black.
duh.
i mean, aren't we supposed to judge people based on the beauty of their personality, not their outer beauty. oh wait, i'm a guy, never mind.
redhead is best, than brown, than blonde, than black.
duh.
This man gets it!
Making lists is best. Next up: boob to butt ratios, cloud-uploaded pictures, and a 'rate my man-bits' thread!
Out this evening with a girl I met as I was leaving a club last week. So there's that. Wish me luck gentlemen.
NuggzTheNinja wrote: So, as of last week I'm single again and on the prowl. Things have been very...interesting...since my life is divided between PA and MI basically. Hooked up with a few girls while I was home but nothing progressed too far except...
Went to a cookout at a friend's house...same crowd as the block party I was at a few weeks ago. At the block party, I met my friend's wife's sister and we struck up a conversation. At one point, one of the kids there threw water on her, and she said to me "I'm absolutely soaked!" and grabbed my hand and put it on her leg, at which point I told her I was seeing someone. We exchanged e-mails but didn't really talk. Anyway, I see her at this cookout on Sunday. We start chatting it up and I told her that the relationship wasn't really a thing anymore. I could tell that the wheels were turning in her head. Anyway, everybody was wasted but neither of us were drinking.
I gave her a look and asked if she's thinking what I'm thinking. She responded, "I dunno...what are you thinking? Because I'm probably thinking the same thing..." I said that I give our odds of sneaking away without getting caught are pretty low. She goes "Well...it isn't impossible..." Anyway we snuck downstairs and screwed in the basement while everyone else was hammered drunk outside lol
Anyway, I get back to MI and trainwreck (the girl I broke up with...she became a full blown alcoholic while we were dating and a pathological liar. Hence the breakup - I don't have time for that gak) hits me up...she's been hitting me up nonstop all week. I tell her we can MAYBE be friends with benefits if she can turn her life around, and reevaluate then. Anyway, since I've gotten back up here I've been fooling around with her and semi-rekindling a more-than-friendship with my old research assistant. No solid plans yet but it's pretty much only a matter of time.
As if that's not enough conflict-of-interests for you, I'm on Tinder the other day and I see a former student of mine. Hmmmmm...to swipe yes or no? feth it, YOLO, I swiped right and to my surprise, "it's a match." Anyway, I send her, "Well if this isn't awkward..." She writes back..."It's only awkward if you want it to be " So apparently that's a thing.
Wish me luck gents. I've traveled a hard path in the past, but I know that this next semester will be full of all sorts of debauchery, and my body is ready.
Maybe it's because i'm still out my mind from last night, but I just love this whole thing. Denzel for maximum approval.
NuggzTheNinja wrote: So, as of last week I'm single again and on the prowl. Things have been very...interesting...since my life is divided between PA and MI basically. Hooked up with a few girls while I was home but nothing progressed too far except...
Went to a cookout at a friend's house...same crowd as the block party I was at a few weeks ago. At the block party, I met my friend's wife's sister and we struck up a conversation. At one point, one of the kids there threw water on her, and she said to me "I'm absolutely soaked!" and grabbed my hand and put it on her leg, at which point I told her I was seeing someone. We exchanged e-mails but didn't really talk. Anyway, I see her at this cookout on Sunday. We start chatting it up and I told her that the relationship wasn't really a thing anymore. I could tell that the wheels were turning in her head. Anyway, everybody was wasted but neither of us were drinking.
I gave her a look and asked if she's thinking what I'm thinking. She responded, "I dunno...what are you thinking? Because I'm probably thinking the same thing..." I said that I give our odds of sneaking away without getting caught are pretty low. She goes "Well...it isn't impossible..." Anyway we snuck downstairs and screwed in the basement while everyone else was hammered drunk outside lol
Anyway, I get back to MI and trainwreck (the girl I broke up with...she became a full blown alcoholic while we were dating and a pathological liar. Hence the breakup - I don't have time for that gak) hits me up...she's been hitting me up nonstop all week. I tell her we can MAYBE be friends with benefits if she can turn her life around, and reevaluate then. Anyway, since I've gotten back up here I've been fooling around with her and semi-rekindling a more-than-friendship with my old research assistant. No solid plans yet but it's pretty much only a matter of time.
As if that's not enough conflict-of-interests for you, I'm on Tinder the other day and I see a former student of mine. Hmmmmm...to swipe yes or no? feth it, YOLO, I swiped right and to my surprise, "it's a match." Anyway, I send her, "Well if this isn't awkward..." She writes back..."It's only awkward if you want it to be " So apparently that's a thing.
Wish me luck gents. I've traveled a hard path in the past, but I know that this next semester will be full of all sorts of debauchery, and my body is ready.
Luck. Don't forget to stretch, you aren't as young as you used to be.
Thank you sir.
Last night saw the date with that former student of mine. I secured tickets to a really cheesy acapella show on campus then we broke into my office building after hours and fooled around on the roof.
While out we bumped into another former student of mine. They were like uh....is that a thing? Hahaha...guess the jig is up. Small town USA. I have a feeling my reign of terror will come to a screeching halt once all parties involved figure it out. However, until then, I will be the anti-hero you never knew you wanted.
Good luck with your club find. May that fair wench polish your sword til it shines like the sun on the sea (I'm trying to translate this into nerdspeak for public consumption )
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Medium of Death wrote: Out this evening with a girl I met as I was leaving a club last week. So there's that. Wish me luck gentlemen.
Maybe it's because i'm still out my mind from last night, but I just love this whole thing. Denzel for maximum approval.
i mean, aren't we supposed to judge people based on the beauty of their personality, not their outer beauty. oh wait, i'm a guy, never mind.
redhead is best, than brown, than blonde, than black.
duh.
This man gets it!
Making lists is best. Next up: boob to butt ratios, cloud-uploaded pictures, and a 'rate my man-bits' thread!
simply put, all guys want a girl like dear ol mom.
simply put, all girls want a guy like dear ol dad.
Beauty and personality have nothing to do with it, it's in the pheromones.
i mean, aren't we supposed to judge people based on the beauty of their personality, not their outer beauty. oh wait, i'm a guy, never mind.
redhead is best, than brown, than blonde, than black.
duh.
This man gets it!
Making lists is best. Next up: boob to butt ratios, cloud-uploaded pictures, and a 'rate my man-bits' thread!
simply put, all guys want a girl like dear ol mom.
simply put, all girls want a guy like dear ol dad.
Beauty and personality have nothing to do with it, it's in the pheromones.
Yeah, I definitely want to date a 50ish woman with sagging tits that nags me all the time.
The Red Pill: Discussion of sexual strategy in culture.
Its kind of weird.
Just read up on it.
It basically assumes that women are animals and that you can manipulate them into worshipping you by playing them psychologically.
It's absurd.
Ah, its not THAT absurd, when you boil it down all mentally stable humans are fairly predictable and behave under a certain set of psychological parameters, most evidenced by patterns of behavior on the individual level... the idea that one can manipulate those patterns to achieve the desired effect however, IS quite absurd.
Gamer girls are quite shy about it, because... well gamer girls are looked down upon by their peers.
Tangent - today I was beyond infuriated. Was playing a marathon session of Counterstrike GO with some friends and one of the players on one of the servers was a woman (and a married lesbian woman at that), and instantly about half the server started hating on her for absolutely no reason other than the fact that she was a woman playing Counterstrike (and then later a lesbian woman playing Counterstrike). I did what I could to put a stop to it, but my god the level of troll was unbearable.
Well, this might help you deal with the waiting, with what was certainly one of the best female vampire I have seen (specifying female only because else, Cassidy comes into the fray):
Warning, very gory and potentially offensive trailer, including ganguro blackface, for the movie Vampire Girl versus Frankenstein Girl.
Ganguro? I guess thats japanese for guido/oompa-loompa
sirlynchmob wrote: I found this today and thought we could divert back towards topic
I think it helps to point out that women have the same problems when it comes to dating as men do. So if you try online dating the lesson is, be polite and keep your dates.
I try (tried, I quit Tinder, prolly try it again in a few months) picking up black women(really any woman im attracted (key word) to, im not picky as long as they're of age and not outright psychotic or substance abusers) all the time... no luck whatsoever.
the shrouded lord wrote: Well, I might as well ask here.
I'd just like to say, I'm not one to post my problems on the Internet. I have no form of social media, and am subscribed exclusively to THIS forum.
I'd like to note, I am 15. And confused.
I've never really understood the entire point of 'dating', even marriage seems just a mannor of owner-ship, granted a two-way one.
Anyway, For the last two odd years, I have been good friends with a girl. Recently, she invited me to the cinemas.
I accepted. On the weekend, We saw the movie, guardians of the galaxy, had lunch and spent an hour or two in an arcade.
After returning to school, a number of her friends began making comments suggesting me and her to be a couple. She seemed somewhat annoyed by this.
Later she suggested we see another movie together, to which I responded positively.
The thing is, a few day later, and a few days ago, she told me (I don't remember what we were talking about) that she has a boyfriend in America. She also had a picture. This was surprising.
For one thing, I had begun to consider that she may be attracted to me, for another, it was rediculously out of the blue. She'd never talked about this person before, and a friend of hers who I talked to hadn't heard of him. a friend of mine has theorised that she may be lying to make me jealous, but honestly, i can't imagine some one being so attracted to me as to lie. (let's just say that I'm not the skinniest, or tallest tenth grader.
I'm confused, and random people on the Internet seem the best people to ask advise.
Kid, you're at an age where nobody knows wtf is going on or what they're doing, the sooner you learn to accept that, the sooner you'll learn not to worry about it, and the sooner you can be happy. Best advice I can give you, don't worry about what shes thinking, concern yourself only with what you're thinking, and do what feels right.
KalashnikovMarine wrote: So my coffee date for tomorrow has challenged me to a duel, rapiers, at 10:00 sharp. I am now rather excited for this date. Hot redhead, wants to stab me or be run through by me in turn... I'm in!
Where do you meet these women!??!? Can I be you??
NuggzTheNinja wrote: So, as of last week I'm single again and on the prowl. Things have been very...interesting...since my life is divided between PA and MI basically. Hooked up with a few girls while I was home but nothing progressed too far except...
Went to a cookout at a friend's house...same crowd as the block party I was at a few weeks ago. At the block party, I met my friend's wife's sister and we struck up a conversation. At one point, one of the kids there threw water on her, and she said to me "I'm absolutely soaked!" and grabbed my hand and put it on her leg, at which point I told her I was seeing someone. We exchanged e-mails but didn't really talk. Anyway, I see her at this cookout on Sunday. We start chatting it up and I told her that the relationship wasn't really a thing anymore. I could tell that the wheels were turning in her head. Anyway, everybody was wasted but neither of us were drinking.
I gave her a look and asked if she's thinking what I'm thinking. She responded, "I dunno...what are you thinking? Because I'm probably thinking the same thing..." I said that I give our odds of sneaking away without getting caught are pretty low. She goes "Well...it isn't impossible..." Anyway we snuck downstairs and screwed in the basement while everyone else was hammered drunk outside lol
Anyway, I get back to MI and trainwreck (the girl I broke up with...she became a full blown alcoholic while we were dating and a pathological liar. Hence the breakup - I don't have time for that gak) hits me up...she's been hitting me up nonstop all week. I tell her we can MAYBE be friends with benefits if she can turn her life around, and reevaluate then. Anyway, since I've gotten back up here I've been fooling around with her and semi-rekindling a more-than-friendship with my old research assistant. No solid plans yet but it's pretty much only a matter of time.
As if that's not enough conflict-of-interests for you, I'm on Tinder the other day and I see a former student of mine. Hmmmmm...to swipe yes or no? feth it, YOLO, I swiped right and to my surprise, "it's a match." Anyway, I send her, "Well if this isn't awkward..." She writes back..."It's only awkward if you want it to be " So apparently that's a thing.
Wish me luck gents. I've traveled a hard path in the past, but I know that this next semester will be full of all sorts of debauchery, and my body is ready.
why does this gak never happen to me??
Ashiraya wrote: I have brown hair. Where's brown on the hawtness scale?
Ordinarily, I dont think it really makes a difference, but in this case Im going to have to say that its a pretty serious negative modifier as you're a scandinavian woman without blonde hair...
But seriously, I 'love redheads' and 'love girls with long black hair' and 'love girls with blue eyes' and 'love girls with green eyes' and blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah... yet the woman i'm most attracted to at the moment has brown hair and brown eyes. As much as people state a preference, that rarely translates into what they'll find attractive/a 'scale'.
It's just as good as any hair colour, the only hair colours I'm not keen on are grey and white.
Really? I think more women should be comfortable letting their hair go grey/white, I think a woman confident enough with herself to let their age show through that way is sexy as hell (obviously I'm talking within reason here, I don't find 80 year old women attractive, at least not usually)
Yeah, I definitely want to date a 50ish woman with sagging tits that nags me all the time.
Yeah, oddly enough, latina women might be the one ethnic group that I dont usually find attractive...
I do not think Ashiraya wants to send me picture of herself nude. I do not think I want Ashiraya do send me picture of herself nude either.
Yeah, thatd be illegal, shes only 17.
But seriously though guys, can we ease up on Ashiraya a bit, we're getting into borderline creeper territory here, considering shes here for dating advice as well, on top of the fact that shes probably the only womans perspective in the thread, maybe we should be a bit more considerate, eh?
I agree. It kinda is weird. But Ashiraya, some advice, it is likely someone is interested in you, they are just scared, break conventions and ask then out
It's just as good as any hair colour, the only hair colours I'm not keen on are grey and white.
Really? I think more women should be comfortable letting their hair go grey/white, I think a woman confident enough with herself to let their age show through that way is sexy as hell (obviously I'm talking within reason here, I don't find 80 year old women attractive, at least not usually)
Oh, I have no problem with women owning their age I just don't find white or grey hair sexy on younger women (it looks odd to me) and I usually am not into older women (although there's exceptions I have seen hot woman in the 40-50 range).
Don't worry, guys! You're not being creepy, really. I've seen far worse, and Oxayotl was just joking. There's been some useful stuff in this thread. Keep it rolling!
If you aren't attractive by conventional western standards (re: physically fit, not like balding etc) then I wouldn't recommend bothering with Tinder. That's not a knock on anyone, it's just that Tinder by its very nature encourages vanity. With its swipe set-up, its maximum of like 20 words for your "profile" and unlimited picture space, the app wants "shoppers" to basically swipe through people as fast as possible. If they see your picture and don't immediately think "hawt", they're never going to stick around long enough to see your personality, whether it be good, gakky, confident etc.
Tinder's a D2F site. If you want people to give your personality a chance, use relationship sites like OkCupid/Match etc. Site research shows that many women will actually read your entire profiles before moving on with those types of sites, so if you're not rocking the bod but you've got a kickass personality, there's still a chance.
As well, with dating sites you can initiate the conversation, rather than wait for a "match". Sad as it may seem, we live in a society where it's nominally a Man's job to make contact. Even if a Woman reads your profile and likes what she sees, very rarely will they message you first. If you see a chick whose profile catches your eye, send them a message, and go from there. The worst that can happen is that they'll either say that they're only on their for fun/have a man, or they won't say anything. Doesn't reflect on you either way.
I do not know, man. Apparently it is Japanese girls that are orange due to abuse of tanning lotion, but in this movie they are blackface instead. It is Japan, so better not look up to deep.
Wikipedia has an article on it: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ganguro Also no idea what guido or oompa-loompa means.
chaos0xomega wrote: But seriously though guys, can we ease up on Ashiraya a bit, we're getting into borderline creeper territory here, considering shes here for dating advice as well, on top of the fact that shes probably the only womans perspective in the thread, maybe we should be a bit more considerate, eh?
Me saying I do not want her to send me nude picture was borderline creeper territory? “Not” being the important word in that sentence.
The only way I can think of that would make it inconsiderate would be if that was meant as a way to say she is ugly, but since I have never seen her, that could hardly be the case.
My original point in this discussion was that I could not “rate” her just on hair color, or on any trivial description like that, but only on actually looking at the whole. Same thing you explained, really. So I jokingly asked for a picture.
Bullockist wrote: I'm not certain Hybrid but I think asking for a picture of a woman in a metal box might be more freaky than asking for a nude shot.
Well, only if you miss the reference to this and that . I know Ashiraya got at least the first reference, but the second is mostly famous in France so maybe it was lost.
If I did not know Ashiaraya well enough to be sure she would get at least the first reference, yeah, I would not have said that because it would have sounded pretty creepy. But here, just after she did use Dawn of War's splendid voice acting, it was too tempting.
Former student, we'll call her "Conflict of Interests," invited me to a wedding this coming Saturday. I've been spending most weeknights with Trainwreck up until now. The dilemma has nothing to do with Trainwreck but rather has to do with 40k...
The wedding ceremony starts at 1, and I've been playing 40k on Saturdays 12-4. I'd rather play 40k than go to the wedding ceremony but I would like to go to the reception. I dunno...
The other thing is, I think I'm growing a conscience. Conflict of Interests is incredibly sexy but apparently has had a gak past...had an eating disorder, used to be a cutter, etc. She lives with people who are major players in my department at the university so if things go badly with her it could follow me to work. She's also been incredibly forward when it comes to what she's looking for...for example she asked a girl at work to "read our tarot cards" (I may feth on the first date, but I don't tarot until at least date #3), and kept talking about having a "good feeling about us". She then made a comment about "us seeing each other" to which I responded, "Is that what we're doing? Hold your horses there conflict of interests..." Meh...We shall see gentlemen. She's great looking and fun to hang out with but I'm thinking that she may be a little bit off her rocker and pushy for something super serious super quickly.
To play 40k and play it safe, or to go to a wedding with Conflict of Interests? Getting laid hasn't been a problem since I've been seeing Trainwreck so I wouldn't be going just to bang Conflict of Interests (though at a wedding that would probably happen), and I know that it's unhealthy to be hanging out with Trainwreck exclusively. That said, the more enjoyable day sounds like a day of 40k followed by an evening of grilling food and banging Trainwreck viciously.
I think that if an extra-terrestrial being came to earth and told me about his life in alpha centauri, it would only feel slightly more outlandish to me than your dilemma, Nuggz…
So I had a somewhat weird but awesome experience today.
So I work on this golf course and there's this hot blonde girl who plays every week. Stops to say hi every so often and let's me past if I'm on a mower or something.
Anyway I'm on my mower cutting around one of the bunkers and she starts teeing off, so I just pull to the side, turn the engine off to let her play through. But about a second later I hear a bit of a shout, so Iook up and WHAM! Her ball smacks into my shoulder and next thing I know is she's running over to me. Probably thinking she'd killed me or something.
Anyway we ended up getting talking, slight bit of mocking each other and I thought "feth it, I'm going for it"
So yeah I got a date after getting brained with a golf ball.
Fun times
Good job on your date, Sierra. Watch out for any flying golf balls..
I asked the girl I'm interested in out on a date. She said she didn't date (the last person she went on a date with died). Recovering quickly, I asked what her alternative to a date is, but before she responded another friend showed up and the conversation moved on.
I'm still struggling to work out an alternative to a date. I know she hasn't see the Wolf of Wall Street, and it's quite high on her 'to do' list. I've not seen it either, so perhapse a movie night at mine might be a called for?
hotsauceman1 wrote: I agree. It kinda is weird. But Ashiraya, some advice, it is likely someone is interested in you, they are just scared, break conventions and ask then out
Aslong as sharp objects
Side note, Its kinda funny, be everyone thinks im insane at work now, because I kept commenting on the knifes what have and what they are good for and how I want one of them
Guys, a hypothetical question. How do you know if a guy is interested in you?
I'd prefer not asking outright 'Are you interested in me?' as that could get really awkward really fast. But for some reason, in this entirely hypothetical situation, it's just something about the hypothetical guy that raises the suspicion.
Ashiraya wrote: Guys, a question. How do you know if a guy is interested in you?
I'd prefer not asking outright 'Are you interested in me?' as that could get really awkward really fast. But for some reason, it's just something about him that raises the suspicion.
Are there any secret signs I should look for?
Ouch, that's a pretty tough question.. I don't think there's an "universal" way of "recognizing" that. Probably if said person acts a bit 'different' around you,
...yeah, I'm probably pretty horrible at giving advice, but that's the most obvious thing I can think of.
Ashiraya wrote: Guys, a hypothetical question. How do you know if a guy is interested in you?
I'd prefer not asking outright 'Are you interested in me?' as that could get really awkward really fast. But for some reason, in this entirely hypothetical situation, it's just something about the hypothetical guy that raises the suspicion.
Ashiraya wrote: Guys, a hypothetical question. How do you know if a guy is interested in you?
I'd prefer not asking outright 'Are you interested in me?' as that could get really awkward really fast. But for some reason, in this entirely hypothetical situation, it's just something about the hypothetical guy that raises the suspicion.
Fine. If you're asking here about someone specific, instead, just fething ask him if he wants to do something. Hell, call it a date. If he was interested, he'll tell you. If he wasn't then you don't have to wonder.
Generally speaking, if he's a straight single guy who spends more time with you than most other girls, he's probably interested, but just chickenshit.
Ashiraya wrote: Guys, a hypothetical question. How do you know if a guy is interested in you?
I'd prefer not asking outright 'Are you interested in me?' as that could get really awkward really fast. But for some reason, in this entirely hypothetical situation, it's just something about the hypothetical guy that raises the suspicion.
Are there any secret signs I should look for?
All completely hypothetical of course.
Aside from what daedalus said, just try to kiss him, see what happens lol.
But seriously if hes either excessively nice towards you or teases you a lot hes prolly interested, hell if youre at all halfway decent friends hes prolly into you.
But seriously if hes either excessively nice towards you or teases you a lot hes prolly interested, hell if youre at all halfway decent friends hes prolly into you.
Ah, the "pulling the pigtails" thing. Good point.
Guys are... well, we don't really stop aging after somewhere between 8-14, we just pretend we do. With that in mind, if you're honestly not sure, think like you're about half your age.
Ashiraya wrote: Guys, a hypothetical question. How do you know if a guy is interested in you?
I'd prefer not asking outright 'Are you interested in me?' as that could get really awkward really fast. But for some reason, in this entirely hypothetical situation, it's just something about the hypothetical guy that raises the suspicion.
Are there any secret signs I should look for?
All completely hypothetical of course.
He looks for excuses to frequently be around you. Always tries to be physically close to you. Touches you, brushes against, you, etc. Constantly smiles in your presence. Focuses on you and not others in group scenarios.
well, the plot thickens.
yesterday, i was talking to a friend of mine, who i hang out with a bit. she asked me if i lke the girl i posted about before, and i said that i wasn't sure. a few minutes later, i found out that this friend of mine has a crush on me. that, my friends, is what we call unexpected.
Ashiraya wrote: Guys, a hypothetical question. How do you know if a guy is interested in you?
I'd prefer not asking outright 'Are you interested in me?' as that could get really awkward really fast. But for some reason, in this entirely hypothetical situation, it's just something about the hypothetical guy that raises the suspicion.
Are there any secret signs I should look for?
All completely hypothetical of course.
Well, according to Cracked men prefer obvious hints that you're into them and women prefer more subtle ones.
Ashiraya wrote: Guys, a hypothetical question. How do you know if a guy is interested in you?
Besides asking them? The most obvious sign is if they act differently around you and there's no other obvious reason why (you're their only friend in a group, etc). There's no single clue because everyone is different. They might be acting flirty, but that might just be how they act all the time and it wouldn't suggest any particular interest. Or the guy that always seems to fumble his words when you're around might just be stuck in the "OMG GIRLS ARE SCARY" phase of social awkwardness, especially given how young you and (presumably) the hypothetical guy are. So you have to compare their behavior to how they treat everyone else. If they act the same all the time then there's probably not much conscious interest. If joining a conversation with them suddenly flips a switch in their behavior then there might be something.
And of course you also have to think about what kind of person they are. If they're a confident and extroverted person and they're interested they'll probably go for the direct approach and make a clear first move, so if you're stuck looking for subtle signs it probably means you're reading too much into the situation and they aren't very interested. If they're a typical awkward teenage gamer then yeah, pay attention to the signs because there's a pretty good chance they're intimidated and reluctant to say anything openly.
I'd prefer not asking outright 'Are you interested in me?' as that could get really awkward really fast.
Depends on the situation, really. If you're actually interested in them and getting any realistic sign that the attraction might be mutual then go for it. I'm not sure I'd put it in those words, but giving a sign of your own to test their reaction probably won't hurt. If you're not interested and just want to defuse an awkward situation then ignoring it is probably the best response, bringing it out in the open just to reject them is probably going to be embarrassing for everyone involved. If you're not interested and they're making you uncomfortable then it's probably good to say "sorry, I don't like you as more than a friend" or whatever to put that boundary back in place.
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Bromsy wrote: Most guys don't hang around women they have absolutely no interest in. At least voluntarily.
I guess this "friends" concept doesn't exist in their world?
Bromsy wrote: Most guys don't hang around women they have absolutely no interest in. At least voluntarily.
I guess this "friends" concept doesn't exist in their world?
Friends are people you like, and like being around. That is an interest. Do you really hang around with and consider friends women who you, under absolutely no circumstances you would have any interest in dating?
Bromsy wrote: Most guys don't hang around women they have absolutely no interest in. At least voluntarily.
I guess this "friends" concept doesn't exist in their world?
Friends are people you like, and like being around. That is an interest. Do you really hang around with and consider friends women who you, under absolutely no circumstances you would have any interest in dating?
At the risk of sounding like a complete ass, I have fat female friends. I would never date someone overweight. I have a female friend that is wheelchair bound. Would not date. I have female friends I find unattractive, would not date. I have female friends 10+ years older than me. I would not date them.
Isn't it typical to be more selective with your romantic couplings than with friends?
Bromsy wrote: Most guys don't hang around women they have absolutely no interest in. At least voluntarily.
I guess this "friends" concept doesn't exist in their world?
Friends are people you like, and like being around. That is an interest. Do you really hang around with and consider friends women who you, under absolutely no circumstances you would have any interest in dating?
At the risk of sounding like a complete ass, I have fat female friends. I would never date someone overweight. I have a female friend that is wheelchair bound. Would not date. I have female friends I find unattractive, would not date. I have female friends 10+ years older than me. I would not date them.
Isn't it typical to be more selective with your romantic couplings than with friends?
Those sound awfully like circumstances. Bolded the relevant part of my statement.
Bromsy wrote: Friends are people you like, and like being around. That is an interest. Do you really hang around with and consider friends women who you, under absolutely no circumstances you would have any interest in dating?
Yes.
Bromsy wrote: Those sound awfully like circumstances. Bolded the relevant part of my statement.
But "absolutely no circumstances" is a useless standard. By that standard every person you ever spend any time with is someone you have at least some interest in dating*. If you want to have any useful discussion of the subject you need to use a standard that actually divides people into "would date" and "would not date". For example, we might talk about whether or not you have any interest in dating a given person in any likely circumstances.
*Even if the circumstances in question are "I just turned gay, we're both single and desperate, we got really drunk, and the world is probably going to end tomorrow so we might as well enjoy our last moments".
Ashiraya wrote: Guys, a hypothetical question. How do you know if a guy is interested in you?
I'd prefer not asking outright 'Are you interested in me?' as that could get really awkward really fast. But for some reason, in this entirely hypothetical situation, it's just something about the hypothetical guy that raises the suspicion.
Are there any secret signs I should look for?
All completely hypothetical of course.
I'd second the act like an idiot thing. If I'm strongly attracted to someone I get a severe attack of the stupids, it's a family trait ...Yay genes.
Ashiraya wrote: Guys, a hypothetical question. How do you know if a guy is interested in you?
I'd prefer not asking outright 'Are you interested in me?' as that could get really awkward really fast. But for some reason, in this entirely hypothetical situation, it's just something about the hypothetical guy that raises the suspicion.
Are there any secret signs I should look for?
All completely hypothetical of course.
I'd second the act like an idiot thing. If I'm strongly attracted to someone I get a severe attack of the stupids, it's a family trait ...Yay genes.
Gotta agree on this one, when I was with my last girlfriend I was always either acting like an idiot or messing up every other sentence. I still talk to her and get in with her but I still do the same things. So yes that is a major sign that he likes you
I had the strangest thing happen to me today. Not exactly directly related to dating, but still.
So, it was about 13:30, and I wanted an haircut, so I was going to check if the hairdresser to see if they were open. So, I am just walking when I hear some women saying something something about “pipe”, which in French can be either to refer to the smoking device, or as a slang for fellatio, and that ended by “honey”. I did not stop to check or anything, but I was a bit puzzled. The hairdresser was closed, so I come back and walk past those two women. They get up from where they were sitting, they ask me if I want “fellatio? love?”, and one of them even touch my belly. Seriously? I have already been accosted by prostitutes, but never in the middle of the day and aggressively like that. Well, I guess I can still count myself lucky, apparently women have to deal with worse groping more often, but still, that is pretty crazy!
I've heard some absolute horror stories about harassment from the girl I'm currently "involved" with (nothing official, yet I'm taking this one slow and not escalating anything). I've been harassed a few times, but you have to be an exceptionally good looking guy (not saying I am that attractive) to be harassed half as much as a somewhat cute girl.
I'm assuming somebody felt the white knight urge to suppress the amazingness of my tale, but I'd at least appreciate an explanation since my post didn't violate any of the forum rules.
Oh. The closest I got to that was some older women telling that she would date me if she was 20 years younger, but that now it would be statutory rape. Damn it, I am 27, even though it would not be a good idea, it cannot be statutory rape . Yeah, I know, it was really not close .
Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote: I had the strangest thing happen to me today. Not exactly directly related to dating, but still.
So, it was about 13:30, and I wanted an haircut, so I was going to check if the hairdresser to see if they were open. So, I am just walking when I hear some women saying something something about “pipe”, which in French can be either to refer to the smoking device, or as a slang for fellatio, and that ended by “honey”. I did not stop to check or anything, but I was a bit puzzled. The hairdresser was closed, so I come back and walk past those two women. They get up from where they were sitting, they ask me if I want “fellatio? love?”, and one of them even touch my belly. Seriously? I have already been accosted by prostitutes, but never in the middle of the day and aggressively like that. Well, I guess I can still count myself lucky, apparently women have to deal with worse groping more often, but still, that is pretty crazy!
Something tells me you are far more attractive than you give yourself credit for ;P
I'm assuming somebody felt the white knight urge to suppress the amazingness of my tale, but I'd at least appreciate an explanation since my post didn't violate any of the forum rules.
Yeah weird, I saw your post as well, even commented about how I thought you playing with fire and bound to have it explode in your face but I was still envious and wish gak like that could happen to me.
chaos0xomega wrote: Something tells me you are far more attractive than you give yourself credit for ;P
Nah, they were prostitutes. I mentioned that to my father, he said the hairdresser had warned him about them .
I am not terribly ugly, but I am not handsome enough for girls to actually want to be with me. Or so it seems.
chaos0xomega wrote: Something tells me you are far more attractive than you give yourself credit for ;P
Nah, they were prostitutes. I mentioned that to my father, he said the hairdresser had warned him about them .
I am not terribly ugly, but I am not handsome enough for girls to actually want to be with me. Or so it seems.
Trust me, it's your personality.
I know that sounds harsh, but I guarantee that it's true. Self-pity and self-doubt are not considered attractive personality traits, man. You gotta work on that stuff. Thoughts become things.
Not for those prostitutes . I meant I am not good-looking enough for girl to chase me that way. But maybe indeed they were so aggressively pushing for it because I look so much better than their usual client .
Sadly being good looking and confident doesn't exactly exempt you from being treated like dog crap. The only difference is you can get women to end up treating your poorly instead of just being ignored.
Not for those prostitutes . I meant I am not good-looking enough for girl to chase me that way. But maybe indeed they were so aggressively pushing for it because I look so much better than their usual client .
Personality. I've seen some pretty cute girls with some fairly unattractive guys. And they aren't wealthy either...
Not for those prostitutes . I meant I am not good-looking enough for girl to chase me that way. But maybe indeed they were so aggressively pushing for it because I look so much better than their usual client .
Personality. I've seen some pretty cute girls with some fairly unattractive guys. And they aren't wealthy either...
Its almost as if taking care of yourself, being a decent person and not thinking you are better than women is what people look for.
On my front.....nothing. Im off to college in a week with a new car and will be on the prowl.
hotsauceman1 wrote: Its almost as if taking care of yourself, being a decent person and not thinking you are better than women is what people look for.
Are you implying I am not being a decent person, or I think I am better than women, or that I do not take care of myself? Only the last one might have been close to reality .
Easy E wrote: According to this thread, a sign I guy is into you is when he acts like an idiot around you.
What's a "sign I guy"?
A typo. That's what it is.
Oh, contextually speaking, I didn't know if that was some obscure pickup artist slang you might have been using ironically or any myriad of other strange terms I just wasn't familiar with. In retrospect, "a sign a guy is" makes perfect sense.
Not for those prostitutes . I meant I am not good-looking enough for girl to chase me that way. But maybe indeed they were so aggressively pushing for it because I look so much better than their usual client .
Personality. I've seen some pretty cute girls with some fairly unattractive guys. And they aren't wealthy either...
People worry to much about this stuff man, I never was alone when I didn't want to be and I have a drop dead gorgeous wife now. So people need to relax and late nature take it's course. Love always shows up eventually, so no worries there. Rushing things always makes failure.
Just go to where you like to go sit down and relax with in 10 minutes there will be a random girl talking to you asking you what your up to. With in 15 minutes she will be talking away about what ever you said and so on. Geeze go to walmart stand in-front of the games for a couple minutes and some girls will come and talk to you it gets annoying when your trying to buy a game and there's some random girl talking about it And yet I can never find an employee to open the damn cabinet........
OgreChubbs wrote: People worry to much about this stuff man, I never was alone when I didn't want to be and I have a drop dead gorgeous wife now. So people need to relax and late nature take it's course.
It is good for you it came easily to you. But that does not make it easy for everyone else.
OgreChubbs wrote: Just go to where you like to go sit down and relax with in 10 minutes there will be a random girl talking to you asking you what your up to.
That is not what happens to me when I sit down and relax for 10 minutes.
OgreChubbs wrote: People worry to much about this stuff man, I never was alone when I didn't want to be and I have a drop dead gorgeous wife now. So people need to relax and late nature take it's course. Love always shows up eventually, so no worries there. Rushing things always makes failure.
Just go to where you like to go sit down and relax with in 10 minutes there will be a random girl talking to you asking you what your up to. With in 15 minutes she will be talking away about what ever you said and so on. Geeze go to walmart stand in-front of the games for a couple minutes and some girls will come and talk to you it gets annoying when your trying to buy a game and there's some random girl talking about it And yet I can never find an employee to open the damn cabinet........
According to The News Tribune, 53-year-old Leon Shaw was on a date with an unidentified 47-year-old woman when things went terribly, terribly wrong. According to reports, the two had only known each other for mere hours and had had a good time drinking when they decided to visit the home of Shaw's friend, who just happened to be a tattoo artist.
At the artist's home, the unidentified woman asked for a chest tattoo (in the middle of the night) and the artist obliged. During the tattooing process, the woman and the tattoo artist (which sounds like the title of something I would have written in my creative writing class in 2004) began to grow intimate, making Shaw, who thought this was his date, angry. Not much is known about what happened next, but detectives say that Shaw grew angry, the woman punched him and he slapped her back. Then, she ran out of the house, stole Shaw's pickup truck while half-naked. When Shaw went outside to see what was going on, he was run over and his truck was crashed. By the time the police came, Shaw was dead and his date was in critical condition.
This is awful. The police haven't been able to interview the woman yet due to her injuries, but I am worried (as horrible as this date sounds) that someone might not be telling the truth. It's possible, of course, that everyone was just incredibly drunk and acted badly, but it's also possible that the woman was trying to escape because she was being attacked by Shaw and/or his friend. The detectives on the case are just as stumped.
"We still have some investigating to do," Ed Troyer, the sheriff's spokesperson told The News Tribune. The woman has not been charged with a crime.
OgreChubbs wrote: Just go to where you like to go sit down and relax with in 10 minutes there will be a random girl talking to you asking you what your up to.
That is not what happens to me when I sit down and relax for 10 minutes.
Attractiveness definitely counts. But overall women aren't as hung up on pure attractiveness as men. So while the advice about working out, taking care of yourself, dressing well, etc. is all very good advice, you should also work on the personality you project.
Do you smile easily and enough? Is your body language open or closed? Is it relaxed or uptight? Can you start and hold a conversation? Do you pay attention and listen when she's talking? Can you show a sense of humor?
You can be decent-looking but struggle if you're that guy who stands around with his arms folded, never smiling, and only giving one-word answers when approached. Some men act that way thinking it makes them seem tough and manly...but in reality it makes them seem scary and unapproachable unless they're highly attractive. I hazard to guess that OgreChubbs projects a very friendly, happy, open personality and is easy to talk to.
Everyone likes to think that even if they aren't great-looking, they have a good personality. But it's not really true. The good news is that you can work on it just like everything else. Make the effort to smile more. Read up on body language -- how to improve yours and read others. Work on your listening and conversation skills whenever you get the chance.
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If you're ever in the northeastern US (and preferably over 18 because it might be kinda weird otherwise), look me up, I'll make you dinner in exchange for a back massage 
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And yet I can never find an employee to open the damn cabinet........
